My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for a little over 5 years. Well we finally moved in together in April and it has been downhill since then. I think we both realize that it is finally over between us yet- we still are obligated to continue our lease which is about 6 more months. Is it fair for either of us to date other people while living in under the same roof? Should we make some kind of boundaries for that sort of thing?
2006-10-04 07:54:34 · 15 answers · asked by pipsqueak8756 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So you are living the movie "The Break-Up". As long as feeling won't get hurt I don't see anything wrong with dating other people, as long as you don't let them stay overnight.
2006-10-04 07:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you both mutually agreed that this relationship was not working out for you and you have no other choice but to stay because of the lease, then you should have the right to date other people. As long as you both agree to be respectful of one another and respect each other's privacy. Boundaries should be set like not having people over all hours of the night and not being disrespectful and bringing different people home every day of the week. But other than that as long as its a mutual agreement between the two of you then go for it and just try to keep the peace with one anotherr.
2006-10-04 07:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to the people you date to say you're still living with your boyfriend of 5 years, and then expect them to take you seriously,or feel comfortable being with you. I wouldn't believe that story and I wouldn't date anyone in that situation. Why not just find a roommate to take over the lease of one of you and let the other move out. Why not focus on something other than your lovelife for a few months? What's the big rush to date other people??
2006-10-04 07:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not possible or feasible for one to move out and the other to hang onto the apartment, I would recommend that both of you just hold out for six months. Even though both of you may agree that you are done, there are still feelings that will get hurt by seeing the other with someone else, especially in the same apartment. Rather than each of you destroying each other and each others stuff, just hold off until you can split for good.
2006-10-04 08:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl please!!! If it's over between you two and the both of you know it, I mean it was said out loud and both parties understand then do what you do best. I personally wouldn't want to be put in an awkward position if you wanted to bring someone back to the apt or him bringing his date home. So the both of you need to sit down and talk like grown folks and work out the living arrangements and rules for your situation.
2006-10-04 08:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by im2cute4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk about this together, it is something only the two of you can decide...have you thought of getting a different roomate? one of you could move out and sublet to someone else.
2006-10-04 07:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best is you shuld ask the same question to yourself and to him. I think u will get a better picture of ur problem and a good solution of it.
2006-10-04 08:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Raj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're adults and if you're both ok with it, I don't see what's wrong with you just being roommates. However, it may bring out some jealousy though. Be careful.
2006-10-04 08:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of you needs to find a roommate and the other has to go. Staying in a toxic relationship is not a good thing........
2006-10-04 08:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you come to some type of agreement it should be fine, This happens all the time.
2006-10-04 08:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋