ok...i flirt with everyone but for me it's not serious dude i even flirt with woman...it's fun and it doesnt go any further! well my friend's husband came up to me and was like "i tihnk ur hot in that dress" and i said "why thank you! u dont look as bad" and i winked at him...but i do that to even his wife, and he does that also in front of his wife...we're all friends! but the other night, we were all clubbing but my friend couldnt come...hubby got drunk, grabbed my *** and tried to kiss me. i pushed him away! but someone saw it and thought something was actually happening and told her...now she's saying that i want to take her man! and what's worse is he told her that he has feelings for me and wants me! i have no feelings for him! and now i'm scared of loosing my friend over this...what can i do to calm her down???
2006-10-04 07:48:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i flirt with her too! it's not that i see oh he's married let me go flirt! no we're all friends! and he knows i have no feelings for him at al!
2006-10-04 07:57:35 · update #1
Well, I would figure out how to tell your friends husband, DUDE BACK OFF! I would also tell your friend that the feelings are not reciprocated and that from this point on.. He can keep his hands and his feelings TO HIM SELF.
Sounds like you need to tell your friend that your friendship with her matters most and if that means that you not only give her husband a cold shoulder as well as an ICEBLOCK if he comes within 15 feet of you, you will.
Tell her the truth of what happened that night and tell her how you really feel. If she doesn't believe you, then you can consider that friendship sunken and might need to not be so alive in the future.
Guys lust anything that is new to them, which is why I don't have much tollerance for them. Maybe this guy needs to go take a cold shower and remember the commitment he made to his wife.
2006-10-04 07:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by pariah6.9you 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its her that needs to calm down, I HATE when anyone hits on my man joking or not. She probably was starting to hate you long before, but this tops the glass. Why don't you try hitting on single people instead of your friends husband? I had a friend that was like that and needless to say I hate the ***** now for that exact same reason. Why dont you leave the two of them alone I think things are messed up enough now. Let them work it out between them, and if they get divorced........well.......we'll all wonder why.
HE is a man she is a female and you are a female. Either your a lesbian or your buttering her up to take her man. Your a female think about it, how about I go hit on your man for a while then flirt with you then someone tells you I was kissing on him. Being a female what would you think?
2006-10-04 14:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you should never flirt w/ your friends husband or boyfriends. even if your thte flirtatious type..u should do that w/ your friends men because it'll give them mixed signals or even irritate your friends. men r men so if your flirting w/ them...u start to make them think ur into them and they respond back...well some losers do who have no sense of self control. anyway if u truly don't have any feelings for her husband and would never do anything to hurt her...tell her what you told us here on yahoo and never flirt w/ her husband again. let alone talk to him since he now has feelings for u. u should avoid him now and tell him straight to his face in front of his wife that you are in no way interested in him. i had a friend that used to flirt w/ my husband and i ditched the b****. i care about my friendships but if my girlfriends r flirting w/ my man...it pisses the hell outta me even if i didn't show it at the time. so just keep that rule in mind...DO NOT FLIRT W/ TAKEN MEN.!
2006-10-04 15:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by shabambam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dumping on him will not help.
Just tell her you would never do that to her and he is not really your type. His attitude is for her to sort out.
Tell her that the alcohol might have made him more friendly than normal but you were always in control and that you value her friendship too much to ever jeopardize it like that.
All of this should work because it is the truth.
2006-10-04 15:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like growing pains to me...first of all, you need to stop flirting with people like that...especially women if u dont consider ureself to be gay or bisexual, as u see, it can cost u youre frienship....... at this point u need to win ure friends trust back...whether it be dicsussing in full detail, u teeling her husband with her standing there (its called a come to Jesus meeting)...gather everyone together so that there is no misunderstanding.......quite frankly, i believe that this will be the only thing that will help to mend that bridge...
good luck and remember to think about the things that matter the most to u and buidl on that, instead of momentary gratification that only leads to destruction.....
2006-10-04 15:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by sincere030170 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A very wise person once told me you never mess with a person's spouse, their children, or their money. You broke one of the cardinal rules and now you are stuck with the consequences. Good luck trying to salvage the situation, but if I were in your friend's position, I'd be pretty upset too.
2006-10-04 14:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by OrianasMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let her know that your friendship means everything to you, and you wouldn't jeopardize it. Explain to her that you would stop that kind of behavior with her husband and she needs to give him a reality check and boot him out if he has lost feelings for her. Just because you get drunk doesn't mean you have to act like an idiot with your wife's or husband's spouse. You have to remember who you really love and not let one night of passion ruin that....
2006-10-04 15:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you intiated the advance by being the flirt, grow up. You played with fire and now she's ready to whup on you. Real talk: Step to her and let her know her man is not your type and you respect her, he took it too far and promise to slow ya fstness down. Flirt with strangers, teach other to respect you by respecting yourself.
2006-10-04 14:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by asajous 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to calm yourself down. Your behavior isn't cute, it's inappropriate. Stop it. You don't need to be making suggestive remarks and winking at women's husbands and getting to be the center of attention. You were wrong. Apologize, tell her you've realized you're acting out of line and IF she decides to forgive you, consider yourself lucky.
Now you see why your behavior is wrong? You're flirting causes other people trouble and problems.
2006-10-04 14:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
u need to watch who u flirt with.. obviosuly the girl is insecure and that suitation didn't help any. u might not be , but lots of girls are nothing but schemers tryin 2 get what someone has. so talk to her about it, but also watch what u do around married people , something although in good fun are not acceptable to do around married people.
2006-10-04 14:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by shorty26 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋