My wife and I haven't had intercourse in 2 and a half weeks. She was having trouble with her birth control pills and the doctor said not to have sex until she can get checked out. (She is going to her appt. today).
Last week she pleased me orally and thats all I got for over 2 weeks, I have asked her a few times in the past 4 days for her to give me some oral again and she got mad last night at me.
She told me that she was not interested in doing anything sexual at all until she finds out what is wrong with her and doesn't want to be pressured anymore. She said she wasn't in the mood and I need to take care of myself.
I didn't think I was being that big of a jerk. Was I being unfair for her to help me out?
2006-10-04 07:45:27 · 19 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's the wifes matrimonial duty to please her husband in that way anytime you ask for it, without any question.
2006-10-04 07:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by dirftwood22 6 · 5⤊ 4⤋
What possible trouble could the birth control pills be causing which would preclude having sex? Bleeding? Wow. You might have been a bit insensetive with the " does that mean a BJ is out of the question" thing. It sounds like she needs a new OB or a more informitive one. Next trip to the doc go with her.
There are a number of birth control options which do not include messing around with her hormones. Diaphrams are very benign, effective and not very intrusive.
In the meantime , you have found the answer to the ever present Yahoo question, " why does my husband spend time looking at porn?"
2006-10-04 08:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no possible assist you comprehend what is going to take place contained sooner or later and in easy terms your spouse can assist you comprehend tactics she feels and what she needs. Oral intercourse is stunning, maximum women like it yet some do no longer because of the fact the sentiments could be too severe to be relaxing for some women. maximum women additionally desire some good previous shaped intercourse alongside with the oral Who likes what extra is a controversy of individual tastes and selection. So each so often she is contained in the temper for this and each so often she isn't, this is human nature, no one needs the comparable concern each and all the time each and every time. like the candy slogan says, " each so often you sense like a nut, each so often you do no longer."
2016-10-01 22:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were being a little unfair. Birth control can really throw a woman's hormones out of whack and drive her to the brink of insanity. It can really kill her sex drive too. She needs to find the best kind of birth control for her. In the meantime, just be supportive. You can be intimate without having sex - like giving her lots of backrubs, taking hot baths together, etc. If you rack up the "brownie points" right now then you may be able to cash them in for sexual favors once she feels better.
2006-10-04 07:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Coming from a woman's point of view yes you were being a jerk. This probably has nothing to do with you. She is worried about her appointment and her pills. With that and other things weighing on her mind she is not thinking of your sexually needs right now. Women have to be turned on by there mind and emotions. Once things are cleared up you should ease into it and make her feel relaxed. Take it from there.
2006-10-04 07:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by CJ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, First you have to see that she is probably sexually frustrated also since she is not getting anything from this.
usually when you keep asking and asking to give you oral this drives a woman crazy!!!
Have you thought about pleasing her orally? Have you tried? Or have you just asked her to please you. Men have to realize women like oral sex also. Women just don't like to give they like to receive also. Men over look this factor a lot.
I suggest you try to please her. She may return the favor to you
2006-10-04 07:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is possibly something wrong with her. Go wack off and leave her alone about the sex. Be there for her Mister Stengypants!
2006-10-04 07:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like she is very worried about her health..you should try to be supportive and caring ..maybe find out alittle more about how she is feeling both mentally (about this) and physically, If that is her issue the last thing on her mind is sex. (nobody wants to mess something up that's already messed up)
2006-10-04 07:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by snapacookie 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Have you ever thought about what she needs? When a women is upset about something then you should be thinking of her and her needs. Your needs can wait. Have you thought about giving her love and affection and maybe some oral? Have you ever thought about giving and not receiving?
2006-10-04 07:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by bfm 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell your wife that if she isn't going to take care of you that you are going to find someone that will...
It is your way or the highway on this one...
2006-10-04 08:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
as i see it, the problem is you asked her. she apparently likes s&m........ tonite, take her by the hair, force her to her knees and tell her if she bites you slap. i bet that opens up a whole new demension to your sex life
2006-10-04 08:02:26 · answer #11 · answered by fn_49@hotmail.com 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋