he thinks that i cant get pregnant because with his ex, they were pregnant one of the first times they had sex but i havent gottent pregnant yet. so he tells me that since i havent gotten pregnant that i probably cant get pregnant. weve been trying for six months and nothing.
2006-10-04 07:43:37 · 28 answers · asked by sunshinesenior05 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Wow. What a loving and supportive man. You definitely want to have children with someone who loves you so much. (and for the person who gave me the thumbs down, it's called sarcasm, dear.)
I won't do the get married lecture as I see many already have.
But I will say why are you on here asking about it. Get to a doctor and get a real answer.
2006-10-04 07:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with? He is basically saying its your fault, and there is no way of knowing this just yet.
And I am also wondering,why are you purposely trying to have a baby if you are not married yet? Isn't that putting the cart before the horse? I think it would be better to wait for the marriage and then give yourselves some time after you get married to make sure everything is right between you two.
Divorce is no fun for the man and wife, but it is hell on the poor kids!
2006-10-04 07:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by EmLa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. And you still want to marry this guy? Sounds like a jerk to me.
It took me over 2 years to get preggo with my middle child. You'll get pregnant when it's meant for you to get pregnant.
And BTW, a doctor won't see you for reprodcutive issues unless you have been trying for a year if you are under the age of 30.
Have you been on birth control? Sometimes it can take a year to get those hormones out of your system. There are many, many factors that can contribute.
I would re-think marrying someone who would 1) Compare me to his ex, and 2) be so negative about pregnancy so soon after trying.
2006-10-04 07:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First. He shouldn't be saying things like this to you. It is rude and disrespectful.
Secondly, it is advised that after 6 months of trying to conceive to consult a professional.
It can take up to a year of following menstrual and ovulation charts for some people to become pregnant.
As rude as everyone else is putting it. I would wait till after the wedding to get pregnant. If you are planning a wedding currently the stress involved could also factor in for why you are not getting pregnant.
good luck.
2006-10-04 07:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by FerymayGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your fiance to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your fiance to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.
2006-10-04 15:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by donp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like jumping to conclusions. Many factors come into play, including stressors and timing.
Consult your doctor or relax and give it some time. Just trying too hard can create stress.
Also, your fiance may be bullying you because he feels insecure or worried. Do either of you have hidden second thoughts about the responsibilities of children?
A Lot to consider all the way around.
2006-10-04 07:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A doctor will tell you not to worry until you have been trying for a whole year.
There are a lot of factors to concieving. Both on the man's side, and the woman's side. His diet, or stress levels could have changed. Your ovulation could be trickier then his ex's. I
ts a long time to wait, but wait for another 6 months and then seek help. Don't worry until then.
2006-10-04 07:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by chickensneezer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should get married before you try getting pregnant.
Second it could be either one of you that has a problem, just because he got someone pregnant before does not mean he can again. You both need to go to a doctor and get checked for any problems.
2006-10-04 07:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doctors say you should atleast try for a year before consulting a doctor but if you feel something is wrong then maybe you should go! Good Luck and Babydust!
2006-10-04 15:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by brittanyj05cm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a lover . . .
no, wait, don't do that . . .
see a medical doctor to check you and him for all the physical parts of it.
Then get medical help to chart your cycle so you know when you are ovulating, then plan your romantic liaisons during ovulation.
Hopefully things will happen soon.
Maybe consider getting couples counseling - it sounds strange that he would conclude that you can't get pregnant after only 6 months of trying.
2006-10-04 07:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋