OK I have this friend "kate". She has ben a huge part of my life. I care about her alot. This summer she started dating this guy we all would party together and I thought he was a great guy, a gentlemen around her. I liked him tell recently things started to get weird I noticed they were doing cocaine. And be very secretive about it. (The way I found out was shady but its a long story that I wont get into it.) I just figured she was trying it. Then I took her out W/O her B/F and she asked me (drunk) if I knew any one at the party that had coke. I sat her down and talked with her about her drug use. And she fliped out and told me it wasnt like that mind my own bissness I told her I would. The next day I talked to her B/F In person.(who suplies her with coke) He assured me that he had kates best interest in mind and he genuinely had feelings for her, and no more nose candy. Well their still doing coke alot and she's distancing her self from her friends. We dont know what to do?
2006-10-04 07:28:36 · 11 answers · asked by rebel_slash_hippy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There's only so much you can do....the probablem with coke heads is that they think they have control of the situation and nothing you say will change their minds. I've watched friends over the years "snort" or "smoke up" their marriages, homes, jewelry, autos....I could go on and on. But the reality is you can't help them. They can only help themselves. The only lesson that I learned from my past experience was to get out before they sucked me into the black hole of their addiction...Addicts are never happy to ruin just their own lives, they typically take everyone with them. Hope for the best but let her distance herself. Trust me, you don't need the heartache or the aggravation. (And keep track of your friend while at your home....YES, my FRIENDS thought nothing of stealing from me to buy their next fix.....SO, I can only say....GET OUT WHILE THE GETTIN's GOOD.
2006-10-04 07:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by bug927 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 12:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel, but it's too late for that.
Your friend is an addict who is in love with an addict.
Please do not desert your friend, but then again do not be too kind...
It is disgusting that the boyfriend seems to have plied your friend with an addictive substance therefore making her an addict.
She is now addicted to the boyfriend as he obviously is able to get hold of the substance..so its a catch 22...
The only way I would deal with this is to inform the authorities...It is illegal to sell this type of drug..who knows what the boyfriend is up to..he would have to fund the habit somehow.
Being kind and supportive does not make an addict give up. You are going to have to be cruel to be kind...because I am sorry but you are not at this time so important to her.
Just be there for her when she sees the light
2006-10-04 07:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by SALLY D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when it comes to drugs most people only realize it when they hit rock bottom there is no reason why she even want to try it in the first place you can try to help her if you have to talk to her mother maybe her mother can help her or get her into rehab or something, But if she doesn't want your help no matter how persistant you are then sorry to say you lost and the b/f and the drug won, if anything my best bet is to find new friend that isn't into that and that is alot smarter,
2006-10-04 07:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do. Right now. You can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped. All you can do is be there for her when she hits rock bottom. I would still call her, write or email her and let her know she still has people that care about her, but if you kick his or her butt, it will only push you further apart.
2006-10-04 07:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by HunnyB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already talked to her, she's not listening. The bf isn't going to help, he's her supplier. The next step would be to talk to someone in her family. They can legally check her into a hospital and get her detoxed and into a program. Don't wait.
2006-10-04 07:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesnt want to stop shes not going to. she has to WANT to stop. i know this is messed up but do you have someone who influences her a lot that you can talk to? a best friend, anything? or maybe an authority figure or parent? its harsh i know, and i have never done anything like that to my friends that do it but it is an option. i have seen this happen and it only get worse, ive seen ppl with their noses bleeding because their nasal cavity is messed up, coughing up blood, anxiety attacks, etc. either separate yourself from her and let her know its a consequence to her actions, or if you cant do anything about it, find someone who can! most ppl who i know who do this wont even realize they have a problem, they think its all fun and games!
2006-10-04 08:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by kitti7420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and tell them people are buying, selling and using cocaine and give them their names/addresses. If you're afraid "Kate" is going to get into "trouble" if the police do anything, she's already in a lot of trouble right now.
2006-10-04 07:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, if you love your friend, truly, you would do what's best for her. Go to her parents, families, people who can stop her..and tell them...Better that she is mad at you while she is in good health than when she will be almost dead!!!!!!!!!
you would know you wanted the best for her....what happens next is not important. One day she will thank you........
Think about it....and good luck
2006-10-04 07:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by Valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An asss kicking may make you feel better but it wont make her stop. She is on addict status and will need to want to stop to have a chance. Talk to her parents and perhaps you guys can do an early intervention BEFORE she really loses it.
2006-10-04 07:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋