my partner of two years and i went on holiday to canada and when we came back.. he would not speak to me at all for 3 days and we split up, he has chosen to live with his mother who he does not get on with and step father who he DOES NOT SPEAK TO??anyway he has given me ten different reasons for leaving and the latest one is he wants to live alone.ha. yet he still comes round and helps me with things, I think I went to the toilet on the plane and someone else was in his place...seriously, i dont know the man anymore, how can i possibly get back what we had? what do people think out there of this one???he also bought me a beautiful ring before we went and told me how much he loved me.
2006-10-04 07:24:47 · 35 answers · asked by Angelica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
odds are that he found someone better or you did something totally repulsive that he is turned off by.
2006-10-04 07:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by JV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi im stumped also when he wasnt speaking to you for these three days did you not ask him whats wrong.May be he did want to be alone for sometime. Holidays make people feel different things maybe he felt like he wanted to do different things and not be in a relationship, but being away from you hes realised and he had tried to crawl back. If you dont get the real reason out of him i wouldnt take him back.
2006-10-04 07:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you went to the toilet and someone else was sitting there do you actually mean it was a different person completely or your fella had drastically changed. He is full of contradiction and lies, he wants to live on his own but moves in with his mother and step father who he says he doesn't like. That's all you have got to go on what he says to you but I think its more of a case of what he hasn't said. He might have been having an affair and just decided that he was going to go or he can't take commitment or he just completely unreliable and a fraud. I think your best shot him, the man sounds a nightmare. Cut your loses and go and find someone else who you can trust and rely on, to be consistent and truthful, that's the least you deserve.
2006-10-04 07:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had a spiritual awakening on the plane and his life passed before him in a split second. This can happen to everyone at some point in his life. You did not mention when he does come around you, do you guys have sex?? then does he leave?? I would give him some space to see what he really wants. In the mean time go about your life. If he is still unresponsive towards you, you might want to consider giving him his ring back. Then see how he reacts..
good luck..
2006-10-04 07:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and have a good talk with him. Explain what you're feeling and show him that his actions make no sense whatsoever! Insist that there must be something wrong: he's either hiding something or ashamed of something. Keep putting pressure on him because at the very least he owes you the truth. If he doesn't come clean, and it appears that the reason for separating is because he wants to live alone (with his mum and step-father!!!!!!!) then unfortunately you have to face the fact that you married a total moron, and you are better off without him.
2006-10-04 07:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most obvious answer is that he is cheating. I guess in a VERY off-chance... odd behavior can be caused by illnesses such as a brain tumor... but I highly doubt it. Even though 2 years seems like a LONG time... I promise that you will survive this and find someone else. The best thing is to just put a period on it and move on. If he is 'just not that into you', nothing you can do or say will change that. Plus, why would you want to be with someone that treats you that way!?
2006-10-04 07:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by ell090702 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's obvious that we don't know the whole story. U said he went to the restroom in the plane and when he came back, someone was sitting on his seat? How did that happen? The only thing to do is ask him because the best we can give u are guesses.
2006-10-04 07:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe when you were both on holiday he realised how much he missed his mate. while you were in the toilet on the plane - we all know how long that can take - he had time to weigh up his options. he missed his mate incredibly while he only missed you a wee bit. seriously though if he keeps changing his reason for splitting up then maybe he is just panicking - you did say he gave you a ring - about spending his whole life commited to one person. you have to decide if you want to spend your life with a person who cannot be honest with you. good luck.
2006-10-04 07:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by magicalle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need a bit more info I think like how old is he. What job does he do. Im only guesing but i think he maybe in hes 30s and have a petty stressful job?? if so I went through a simular stage a while back - just give him time and dont give up
2006-10-04 07:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Stevie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him what happened? There is a communication problem there. Let him go if you really love him and if he comes back then go from there. But I would not chase him down and I would separate myself from him. Give him the space he says he needs. Don't let him come over and help with anything. That way he can actually have time to miss you and see what he's missing.
2006-10-04 07:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by msbobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holidays have a way of bringing up issues by putting you together for far longer than you would ever spend in each other's sole company. Saying that, he is the one who appears to have trouble talking. He needs to be honest but you may never get the truth out of him so be prepared to move on without ever really getting to the bottom of it...
2006-10-04 07:32:52 · answer #11 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋