I know it's long, folks, but please read it! I need some serious advice here! What should I do?

Question

I work in a bowling alley day care. On saturdays, my boss bowls on a league. She has 4 kids. A 3 yr old devil child (boy), a 5 yr old girl that can be as sweet as an angel, a 8 yr old boy who I'd like to strangle sometimes, and an 11 yr old boy who does absolutely nothing. Ever.
This past saturday, she only had Seth (the 3 yr old) and Faith (the 5 yr old). Not only did she clock in when she was going to bowl, but she tried taking the big screen down to her lane so she could watch the football game. So it's just my sister and I with her 2 kids and about 5 others. The other 5 are doing just fine. Her (keep in mind, he hasn't even been 3 for a whole month yet) 3 yr old comes up to me and spits in my face. Then he decided he was going to bite me. Right on the crotch. So now I have a 50 cent piece size bruise on my crotch...and when I say crotch, he got my cl*t and everything. So I picked him up and put him up and put him in a high chair. He gets out somehow.

I went to go pick him up to put him back in it and he kicks me right in the boob! Then he decides to yell "F*ck off, stupid face!" at me. I seriously left the room and went to go tell my manager what was going on because I had tried calling Julie (my boss) down to come and get him and she just kept saying "Keep in mind that he just turned 3 2 weeks ago. He's still going through that phase. You'll be fine." I was so seriously about to just quit. Well, I went back into the room, and what do ya know...that little bastard has a friggin chair in his hands and was going to throw it at me! He missed me, but still.

So I called my boss one more time. She finally came down there. It was about 10:10 (pm). All the other kids had left around 10 til 9, which pissed me off because she was on the same league as them and I know that they had been done bowling for quite some time. She sat down there on her fat as* and was yapping her jaws while I had to deal with her devil child.

On her way down, she stopped at the front desk and told my manager that since I couldn't handle one 3 yr old by myself that she was going to have to find somebody that could....


I guess you'd have to actually hear it from me to get the whole story, because there's just far too much to type. We found out that night that she's been stealing from the company for the past 8 yrs, and there's really nothing that I can do about it until someone else finally feels that they've had enough and decides to stick up for themselves as well. I have a meeting with the owner today to tell him everything that I know. About a month ago, we had a kid come in that was being sexually abused, and he didn't want us to do sh*t about it, so I can only hope that he'll do something about her.

And she wonders why she's lost 5 people in the past 2 months. And to top it all, my sister got transfered to the front desk last night, so I'm in this all alone now.....
So - WHAT DO I DO?!

Just a few more details -

I'm 19, no, I don't get paid enough, the little boy who was being sexually abused WAS reported.

I do this as a second job. I own my own novelty company, and it's just starting out, so I definately need the extra money to keep it going. I also have a $950 mortgage to pay every month. Moving is not an option for me.

And to the girl that said something about it not being my problem because I still got paid for it? I would love to see you try and deal with this child. hahaha....Buck up? wtf....

Answer 1

Since you have so many problems that deserve attention and to be dealt with in a timely manner, be sure to document everything that happens including date and time. Then if you boss does not do anything about it, you can lodge a formal complaint with the work and safety board (or whatever it is where you live) and you have documented proof of your claims.

You seem to be good at documenting ;) so this should not be a problem for you. Be sure to get names and contact information for any witnesses as well.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You work at a bowling alley day care- so your job is to watch children. No matter whose children you watch that is what you are paid to do. If you don't feel comfortable watching children, and yes, some of them can be terrors, then you should look for a different line of work. Who cares that your boss clocked in, that's not your problem to worry about, your still getting paid for what you do. Who cares that the mother was yapping until whenever after the others have left. You were still working on the clock, right? You weren't there for free, right? SO, either read some child discipline books and figure out how to control the uncontrollable, or start putting in applications at other places of business. And, just to let you know, anywhere you work there are going to be times of stress, and it won't do you any good if you get ready to quit every time something happens that you don't like. Buck up..

Answer 3

It's obvious that the mom is a swearing violent *****. Here's what you do. Place an anonymous call to DCFS and report her sorry mom as* and they will be all over her. No job is worth this abuse, and if the bowling alley owner wont do anything about it, some other kid will get hurt and he will lose his stupid bowling alley when the abused kids parent's sue his as* and get everything he owns. When you quit, they'll have no one else to fill in and the mom will have to quit her league to take care of the kids. make sure your sister and you both have other jobs before you quit. But don't say a word about looking for another job, just drop the bomb on them and walk away.good luck.

Answer 4

First off..... The kids are that way BECAUSE their mother is a worthless piece of ***t! Of course she's going to dump them off onto whomever is actually dumb enough to try and cope with them and try to fill the void left by her lack of..................

Second: HOW OLD ARE YOU???????? QUIT that lame *** job and find something else!!!! Life's far to short to deal with that kind of nonsense! There's many other jobs out there!!! Even if you end up with one which isn't a "Good Job" (like the one you have now), would it be any worse than the crap you're dealing with now????

Tell them to go spin and walk!!! Real simple. (On your way out, you might want to point out to her just exactly what type of person she ISN'T and do it in a manner in which she might actually get a clue). Probably a big waste of your time/effort! But it might make you feel better none the less!

Answer 5

Sounds like you have a personnel problem that should be dealt with by the owners of the bowling alley. If nothing is done about her and her children, I would simply give my notice and the reasons why. Not much else you can do. It's not fair, and really wrong of that parent but aren't you glad you don't have to go home with them? lol Good Luck!

Answer 6

I would suggest calling an employment law lawyer and getting a free consultation. There may be some other something that you can do to remedy the situation. The lawyer can probably best tell you wear you stand and what your rights as an employee and child care worker are. Good luck!!

Answer 7

Outrageous!!!! You don't have to put up with that. Find another job, that's your only option. Your boss is a pathetic excuse of a mother and person. By all means tell the owner and manager and tell them that you are looking for another job as a result of this woman. Unbelievable.

Answer 8

Find another job! If she is your boss, its not going to change, and if you complain she'll just get offended and maybe fire you! Don't want that on your work record! Have you considered starting your own daycare service if that's what you really love to do? Good luck to you. Tough situation.

Answer 9

start making some phone calls: the police, child protective services, better business bureau, a laywer, anyone you can think of. i am especially concerned about the sexually abused child that was not reported. start making a paper trail and get this person fired.

Answer 10

Quit your job.You have the right to call the parent to pick the child up if misbehaving.