A few weeks ago had a misscarriage. I want to do something to remember my baby does anyone have any ideas??

Question

Also do you know of any books or anything to help me and/or the baby's father deal with our grieving process??

Answer 1

Look for a beautiful poem, either copy it or print it, along with the baby's name. Then place it in a pretty little frame. You can embellish the page with baby stickers, etc before framing.

I don't know of any books, but please know that we all send our prayers out to you and the dad. Time really will help. Take care and God Bless.

Answer 2

Barnes & Noble is presently carrying a book (you can order it online) called: EMPTY CRADLE, BROKEN HEART: SURVIVING THE DEATH OF YOUR BABY, by Deborah L. Davis and Carol J. Curtis ($17.95). I have a feeling you will find help there.

I've been there and done that three times (I am RH negative, my ex-husband is RH positive). It never gets easier, but you learn to live with the loss. I'm sorry that you and your husband have had to go through this. You are wise to make certain that he is included in the grieving process.... you had a real child, and you have been real parents even though you didn't get to leave the hospital with a baby in your arms.

There is a second book that you should be looking at, as well: PREGNANCY AFTER A LOSS: A GUIDE TO PREGNANCY AFTER A MISCARRIAGE, STILLBIRTH OR INFANT DEATH, by Carol Cirulli Langham ($14.35).

If you have a good idea of why you lost your child, it will help during your next pregnancy. I had DNA studies done to be certain that the problem was not genetic and all came back fine. No one thought to test me for the RH factor until I had lost the third child. Not good.

Know that you have placed a little soul directly into the hands of God. He will raise your child for you until you meet again in heaven. Until then, be strong and enjoy the next baby twice as much.

Hugs to you both!! God Bless you.

Answer 3

Just the other day I happened upon a web-site for the parents of a baby that died. They had letters from themselves and other family members to the baby, talking about the love they have for him and what their hopes and dreams for the baby were. It's really sweet. They also said they joined an on-line support group. The web-site would be good to help you grieve and remember the baby. If you don't want to do one on your own, there's a site called in-memory-of that lets you have your own page dedicated to the person you lost. I'm very sorry for the loss of your baby.

Answer 4

I am afraid I don't know of any books tho I am sure there must be some out there.

I also had a miscarriage earlier this year - In the USA there are a few websites that do memorial jewellry (forget-me-not pendants/bracelets etc) and I think I will get one to remember the anniversary by. (Buttermilklane.com and Labelledame.com).

We planted a forget-me-not plant on what would have been the due date for our baby.

There are also a few websites with poems and I printed one of them off to carry around with me.

I hope this helps and I am sorry for your loss. xx

Answer 5

first of all, i am very sorry to hear about this. if you belong to a chruch or if there is a church near you, go to them,. they have sessions for grieving (regardless the situation). also its sometimes good to talk to others who are going through the same thing. some hospital also have groups for couping with these kinds of lose.
to remember your child, depending in what trimester you were in, if you got an ultrasound done, you can buy a special journal book and keep the picture in there including any cards you might had gotten regarding your lose.
if no ultrasound was done, i hate to say this, but maybe letting the whole situation rest would be the most healthy thing to do.

Answer 6

Sorry no knowledge of books on grieving but from experience it takes an year, you just have to live through dates that remind you. Not easy.

A long lasting remembrance might be to plant a tree of some description that would blossom in the spring?

Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I think it is nice to keep your baby in your mind and love your baby up in heaven. I have three ideas. Get the babies name that you choose and have it written in a fancy way or have somebody with sewing skills do it. Then put it in a frame and hang it on your wall. Or, If you have a sono picture of your baby put it in a cute little baby frame. You could also plant a tree- your helping the earth and watching the tree grow keeping your baby in your family.

Answer 8

plant a tree in the babys memorie sort of like a memorial to remember the baby by. and it will grow forever.Also plant flowers around the tree,


Miscarriage: Women Sharing from the Heart
by Marie Allen
I Never Held You: A book about miscarriage, healing, and recovery (Paperback)
by Ellen M. DuBois (Author)

Answer 9

My suggestion would be to journal, as part of the healing, and to record all of your thoughts, feelings and hope. Additionally, put the journal in one of those keepsake baby boxes, with some things for your baby.

The lady who suggested planting a tree, I like that one, too.

I am very sorry for your loss. I have had this experience, and time does heal these sorts of things. Soothe yourself with your husband's love, and you will get through it just fine.

Answer 10

Hi I to lost a baby 5 months ago, at 20 weeks
How far along were you?