2006-10-04 06:23:57 · 40 answers · asked by Matt 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Firstly, I'm a girl so I'm going to be objective while I answer this, but I'm also sympathetic. I really don't know how old you both are, but if you're both young, then maybe have your parents involved. You need to be supportive of her whether she decides to keep the baby or not. Yes, you have a say but you do know that no matter what, by law, she has the final say in the matter. Whatever you do, make sure she knows you're there for her regardless. Also ask yourself, what you want since she may ask you and you should atleast be heard as well. If you are both teens, seriously have your parents involved. Especially if you're minors since you guys really can't make any legal decisions without them. I'm fron California so I would assume the laws apply everywhere.
2006-10-04 06:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by KIm Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very young, otherwise you would not ask such a question. If your young lady is pregnant then make sure you stand by her when she needs you most...don't be like some young men I know who are total jerks and go to the pub and say what the hell am I going to do. Well first of all get professional advice such as your parents and GP's if information is what you require. I had my first when I was 17 and made sure that I was there for my lady first before my mates, so make sure that you take in account what is a priority and what is not. Share this info with those you trust impicitly, they will give you and your girlfriend the support you need. (Good Luck to you and your girlfriend, may the newe born come into the world smiling).
2006-10-04 07:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Le Baron 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you are.
If you are in high school. STAY THERE! Get the grades you need to get your diploma! Quitting and getting a job might look like a good idea but in the long run will not help you, your gf or your baby.
If you are not in school and are in college.. read above..
If you are working keep that up! Keep moving forward each day.
The only thing you can do for your gf is be there when she needs you. She will be moody, she will be bitchy, she will cry and need you to rub her and tell her how beautiful she is especially when she gets really big and feels like no one could think she is pretty anymore.
You need to be there when the baby comes and do what she needs.
When the baby comes you need to stay calm and try and help where you can. Your gf might get post pardum depression. Be ready for more mood swings!
Be a loving Bf and father. Don't try and push anything into marriage unless this is what you and her want. There is nothing wrong with staying bf/gf even if you are expecting a child. It is the love that matters not the name given to the relationship of the parents.
Good luck and Congrats.
2006-10-04 06:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by FerymayGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her. When I told my boyfriend I was pregnant he was so shocked he left the room. After five minutes he returned and gave me a cudddle. He remembered some advice a teacher at school had given him. "If your girlfriend ever tells you she is pregnant, dont be selfish and try to think what she is going through". He was fantastic through my whole pregnancy. And at the birth and he is a fantastic daddy. I know this will be hard for both of you. Be strong for your new family.
2006-10-04 10:50:52 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
circumstances like this happens all the time.
millions of people everyday get the same shocking news.
i've got some ways to resolve this problem or maybe NOT!:
1) If she really wants the child she should keep it and u should support her.
2) get married! ( freaky)
3) tell her to get an abortion b4 it's 2 late.
4) if u don't love her anymore b coz of this issue leave her!
these are my four resolve/problem solutions!!!!!!!
hope it helps u!!!!!!!!
1 thing in life u always have to be : BRAVE & COURAGEOUS!
make sure u take a good decision abt what ur going 2 do wiv the innocent 1!!!!! and.........
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2006-10-04 07:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her as much as she wants/needs you. Go to all doctors appointments if you can do the right thing she needs you now more than ever if you love her take care of her and stay with her. If she gets mad and moody understand chances are it's not really you it's the hormones. Strange things happen when you are pregnant and some you just have to deal with. But whatever you do don't leave her if you love her.
2006-10-04 06:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by secretangel212005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend is pragent than this is the time when she needs you the most I Ithink you should get a job and start saveing for the baby it is not easy to take care of a baby by yourself
2006-10-04 06:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Davina R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how old are you? do you have a job? is she going to the doc? does anybody know? if the answer to the first question is young..the second question is no..then go get a job..if it is yes than you need to start saving money, the thrid question is no then make her go to the doc if she is ...then take the doc's advice...and if nobody knows dont be a dummy tell your parents or hers...(member you cant hide it forever and they will be abole to give you support even if at first they are mad at you...member if you are man enough to do the deed you need to be man enough to handle and own up to your responsibilities) congratulations Daddy....and plz DONT EVEN ENTERTAIN THE THOUGHT OF ABORTION..I could tell you a story that would make your skin crawl..dont do it...have your baby...god bless
2006-10-04 06:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation, i had broken up wit my babys dad before i found out i was pregnant.. hes bn great with the baby now but he didnt want to know about it when i was pregnant.. i found his lack of support extremely hard to deal with.. it wasnt that i wanted us to get back together i just wanted some emotional support because i felt like all the responsibility was on me, I needed to know he was gonna be there for the baby. if you have any friends wit kids you should take to them about any fears you may have.. you need to decide if you want this child or not and let her know.. and if you see a future wit ur girlfriend.. let her know wat you decide and take it from there. if you are going to stick around just be supportive
2006-10-04 08:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by singlemother22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you spelled pregnant wrong. Second of all, you should take care of your girlfriend and comfort her through her pregnancy. And when your child is born be the best damn father you can be.
2006-10-04 06:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋