i am getting a devorce from my spouse because of hurtful things that he says to me he say something like i will never have full trust in you and he thinks i should give him another chance what do you think cause as far as i kno wif he don't have trust in me then we should not be married
2006-10-04 06:23:54 · 14 answers · asked by poporjay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no love without trust... I think you should find someone that can ful-fil all your needs in every department don't settle for someone you can live with settle with someone you can't live without... If he doesn't trust you by now Trust will be the downfall of your relationship find someone that can trust and let you do what you got to do with out bugging u... Good luck
2006-10-04 06:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
11 years married---A vow is a promise.Remember your vows or were you too busy being distracted from the emotional highs all couples experience the day they wed. For better or worse, through good and bad. Conjunctions--these are all joined by AND. What did you do for him not to want to trust you? Forgiveness is immediate, but trust has to be built over time. You are going to have to prove to him that you are trustworthy, but it is not going to be by your time. Let your actions speak louder than your emotions. If he didn't trust you at all--HE WOULD NOT BE WITH YOU!!!! There's still hope, even he believes it or else he would have dropped you. People don't waste their time if they don't want to. Live off of the potential trust you have and work your way back to the center of his heart! You must first be trustworthy.Think about it.
2006-10-04 13:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Doll eyez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If theres not trust then theres not a true real relationship, did you know this before you got married? i recentlly got out of a relationship were the guy said some of the same things, and many others but love or not its not healthy. Trust me theres someone out there who will trust you completly and love you unconditionally. Does he deserve another chance? Do YOU TRUST him???
2006-10-04 13:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Colleen A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A MARRIAGE SHOULD BE BASED ON TRUST.......HE TRUSTED YOU ENOUGH TO MARRY YOU BUT ALL OF A SUDDEN HE DOESN'T....MAYBE YOU SHOULD ASK HIM WHY HE CAN'T TRUST YOU....OR BETTER YET WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM EARLIER IN LIFE THAT MADE HIM FEEL THIS WAY. MARRIAGE IS HARD BUT I THINK TO GIVE IT ALL UP BECAUSE OF ARGUMENTS IS WRONG YOUR KINDA JUMPING THE GUN.......TRY COUPLES COUNSELING THAT WAY YOU WILL KNOW WHAT THE PROBLEM IS AND THEN YOU CAN MAKE YOUR DECISION BASED ON THE THERAPY NOT EMOTIONS. AND A LOT OF TIMES IN THE HEAT OF AN ARGUMENT WE SAY THINGS WE DON'T MEAN......SO LET HIM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL AND IF HE REALLY WANTS TO WORK THINGS OUT HE WILL AGREE TO COUNSELING. HOPE THAT THIS WAS HELPFUL.
2006-10-04 13:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by diamond girl36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason he doesn't trust you? If there is, you need to work with him on that. Trust will not come back immediately, depending upon the reason, it could take years.
The best way to gain trust back is to keep showing him that you can be trusted....
2006-10-04 13:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married now 24 years and got married at 17. in the begining he used to say the same thing to me even though he was the one who cheated and beat me. He asked me to move to another town and give it another shot. that was 15 years ago and we couldnt be happier. dont rush things look into youre heart and his if you believe it then stay .But if you dont see it run like hell. good luck
2006-10-04 13:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're getting a divorce already... If you were going to stay together, you would. Just move on and find someone else, why step on the same rake twice.
2006-10-04 13:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your divorced you don't owe him anything and you don't have to explain it to him.
Close the door on this and move on to a trusting person who will love you for who you are.
2006-10-04 13:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, what did you do to lose the trust to begin with? Point is, it's a marriage, you made a VOW...
..."Through good times AND bad..."
2006-10-04 13:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Heart of Plat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl you should go. You shouldn't have to put up with that. If he dosn't treat you write than their is another man out their that is best sutted for you.
2006-10-04 13:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by tommy_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋