i have been so sad about my breakup..under so much stress and crying so much. i was with this guy for 2 years and i think he is already interested in other girls. ..yesterday i got into a car accident...and just knowing that he wasnt there for me made it worse. how do i get over such a hard breakup..i mean i know things cant work out between us..but i am so hurt...i cant take the fact knowing he might be talking to other girls..
2006-10-04 06:23:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK. This is difficult. I wish there was a magic wand answer, the one thing or combination of things that would erase all this heartache you're going through.
The way you're hurting right now is completely normal and the time it takes to "get over" these things is different for everyone. Most people experience this kind of hurt over a broken relationship at least once in life. I know people talk of "getting over it", but it's been my experience that you get THROUGH it rather than "over" it.
It will be easier on you if you allow yourself all the time you need to heal this pain you're experiencing and know that there is no fast and hard rule about when you should feel better. The only healing agent you've got for this is time.
The idea of him already talking to other young women is tough and it will be tough for as long as you hurt. My advice is to do everything you can to avoid seeing him or hearing about him pursuing new relationships while you're going through this. While this certainly isn't true for every guy, generally guys are faster to pursue another relationship after a breakup.
If you've ever been through something emotionally difficult before, then you may already know of some things you can do to soothe yourself. What helped me after a breakup was allowing myself time to stay home and do whatever I needed to do. If it was stay in bed and cry, I'd do that. Watching good movies was another one. Freely journaling about everything I was going through was yet another. Staying focused on doing my best in school, and later in life it was work, was what got me through. Having friends that understand and listen was incredibly valuable. Treating yourself really well and scheduling experiences you look forward to is the ticket. Be really good to yourself, spoil yourself, because you deserve it. Take this time to make yourself number one in your own life. What helped me was focusing on doing my absolute best in everything I did - even things as basic as taking a shower, getting dressed in the morning, eating right, and working out. It sounds trite, but as long as you are taking good care of yourself, someone better will come along. They always do.
One day you will be through this. You will feel confident enough to give another relationship a go. Eventually, when you look back on this relationship, you might wonder what you ever saw in this guy.
Feel better soon, and please take care of yourself. And remember, just one day at a time. Just hold on. You will feel better.
2006-10-04 07:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breakups are rough, especially after being together for 2 years. Keep yourself busy. Just do something. Clean a closet, window shop at the mall. Have a girl only day with your friends--no talking about men at all. Pamper yourself and imagine what your next boyfriend will be like. What characteristic he'll have. Surely your ex wasn't perfect. Don't forget about that side of him. It will get better one day, it always does.
2006-10-04 06:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by grannyhuh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, as hard as this is for you right now, believe me when I say that it will get better. You have to stop thinking about what he may be doing and focus on making your life better. Clearly you are in no condition right now to be doing certain things, such as driving. Find comfort in friends and family, plan on taking a trip somewhere for a week, go to the gym, take art classes, but stop thinking about what he may be doing because you don't know. It's never easy to get over a relationship of this capacity because it's very obvious that your feelings for him are deep. Start doing things to make your life better and to make you happy. You don't necessarily have to start dating right away but surround yourself in various social settings and meet people. In time, your wounds will heal, but only if you let them. Be strong, you'll be fine.
2006-10-04 06:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by coolguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is common. It sucks which you're nonetheless residing jointly, nevertheless. I broke up with my ex, additionally of seven years, and in basic terms such as you, develop into unhappy for a protracted time and knew the tip could at last come. I stored putting it off because of the fact of birthdays or holiday journeys. Telling him develop into the toughest concern I ever had to do. yet after, i develop into waiting to pass in with my brother and it made it a sprint much less annoying. I felt in charge too because of the fact i comprehend I broke his coronary heart. shifting out tore me up. yet tremendously much 5 years later i'm married to truly the affection of my existence and the happiest i've got ever been. carry close in there, and don't seem back, no rely how plenty you need to make him sense extra effective. Watch some truly humorous movies to assist take your techniques off it and it will help carry your spirits. it truly is going to at last pass and you'd be that plenty skinnier for it.
2016-10-01 22:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, you ain't the only girl that's going threw this so that should make you feel a little but better right? I guess you gotta distance yourself from him even though it's so hard because you've been in his company for 2 years but you have to try otherwise you're not gunna move on and you're going to be unhappy. you gotta delete pictures, throw out stuff he gave to you or even just put it in a black bag and hide it someone just don't let anything that remind you of him be in sight. delete all contact from him. and keep busy! Go out with you're friends! Go shopping, talk to guys! and if it's ment to be he'll come back, if it's not then a guy will come along much much better, trust me. the guy who you was with for 2 years witch is pretty long I'm sure he won't forget you! But sometimes in life you gotta let go of things you love. Hope I helped
2014-04-13 22:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, of course you will. these thing takes time to heal. but trust me, eventually, your love for him will fade. deal with the heartache for a while, in the mean time, you have more important things to worry about. get healthy first, then think about your social life later.
2006-10-04 06:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Woody... find someone else.
2006-10-04 06:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by cindarcolvey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else/life goes on hun!
2006-10-04 06:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by woody 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋