I'm new at being a wife. I had no real life role model of a wife growing up, and I feel like I'm struggling.
So, what would the ideal wife be like in your eyes. Men and women, married or single... I'd like your opinions.
My husband and I have talked about this, and will continue to talk about it, I'm sure. I'm just interested in other people's ideas.
Many thanks.
2006-10-04 06:03:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be supportive of new ideas.
Be supportive of current ideas.
Love him unconditionally.
Be honest, be truthful.
Be an equal.
Tell him often how much you adore him.
Laugh together - ALOT!
Work together.
Make decisions together.
2006-10-04 06:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by jt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Dear,
I`ll start with W.O.W. You are already running on all eight cylinders so to speak. Do you have any idea of the small percentile group you are in? This is a positive thing by the way. I only know of a handful of women who would even take the time to ask such a question and to have such an open mind. I would dare say you are probably the perfect woman in the making, seriously or atleast one of the few of them that exist. Perhaps technic or ideas are what you are considering as a routine to be mapped out as to what a wife is suppose to be. The biblical account is the best map in 1 Cor,
Bottom line is a woman who walks beside her husband not in the shadows, who supports and loves and accepts the good and the not so good. Who will in turn allow her husband to come along side with her as well as team member and support her and lover her , creating a reciprocal agreement, the never ending circle of love. Caring for the other and the other returning the same.
An open minded woman who is able to break the mold when it comes to traditions when necessary. Traditions are a good thing when they dont create bondage. I wish I could keep up with your venture as new wife. I`m sure I would be amazed to watch and admire your progress. God`s Speed to you both.
Pastor Jim
2006-10-04 06:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Ideal Wife...
1. Always trys to look her best, when hubby is around and when he's not, and takes pride in her appearance (including her weight)
2. Is open and available to her husband sexually, and eager to try new things to please him (you're likely to find out that you've been missing out on a lot of fun!!)
3. Makes a warm and inviting home for her family (check out Flylady.net-the best way to keep house, hands down)
4. Recognizes that her husband is the leader of the marriage
5. Expects love and affection from her husband
6. Respects her husband, in word and deed, especially in front of others
7. Is a wonderful loving mother to her children
8. Knows that marriage is not always 50/50...sometimes each spouse has to give 100% when the other is not able to do so
9. Does not nag about the dirty socks on the floor, the hairs in the bathroom sink, or the mud her hubby tracked in...do those things ultimately matter?
10. And last but not least...The Ideal Wife recognizes her own value, and expects her husband to cherish her for who she is...she does not accept abuse, belittling or disrespect. She upholds numbers 1-9 out of love for her husband, her children, and herself.
Best wishes to you and your new husband!
2006-10-04 06:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Legs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An ideal wife.....A wife should care for husband and talk with him like he is your best friend. Listen to each others opinions and views and when one is leaving the house you should let each other know where you are going out of respect of course. Split the bills equally. so there will be now financial problems
2006-10-04 06:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ambegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing just fine with being who you are. You're husband chose you to marry, because he loves you and loves who you are. There's no cookie cutter ideal wife out there. Some days I wonder if I am doing what I should be as a wife. I have a 16 month old, hubby works, I stay home with my son and take care of the house. And, for us, that works. Find out what works for you and your husband, and have fun!
2006-10-04 06:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Girly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job to me already. What works for you and your husband is fine with me. As long as the both of you can talk as a couple, friends, etc you are doing great. You seem to have trust, friendship, listening, and honesty already. Be committed to be a team and making the marriage work in all aspects, mind, body, and soul. The mind making sure you are connecting with accomplishing the same goals. The body, making sure you stay healthy, looking great, and having great sex as a couple. The soul, making sure you are spiritually connected with another. Religion is important. Good Luck!
2006-10-04 06:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wife is a partner to her husband. She is loving and kind. Tender and compassionate. Tough as nails and gentle as a lamb. Solid as a rock and soft as a kitten. She is supportive and helpful. She is loyal and honest and faithful. She matures and grows and changes. A wife is someone her husband can count on.
But there is no such thing as an IDEAL wife. You are who you are and you make the best of it. Remain faithful to your wedding vows and give it your best shot!
2006-10-04 06:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no ideal spouse on either side, but with plenty of love and acceptance hopefully you both can make each other feel that way. Don't be so hard on yourself, the Magic fairy isn't gonna drop by; wave her wand and turn you into Betty Crocker. Good book you may enjoy is sited
2006-10-04 06:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cross between a real sexy model and his mother. So pick up those socks in your G-string and fry that bacon in your lacey bra!
Seriously, be yourself first. Most men don't want their wives to turn into their nagging mothers. They married women who were interested in them, what they did, and their goals. They want confident woman who look after themselves and know when to be the woman on his arm. Respect yourself, respect your spouse, and respect your marriage. Above all, put your marriage first - above all other relationships. And of course, have fun.
2006-10-04 06:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about ideal spouse, its a two way street. Be best friends, never judge, no jealousy, be happy for their successes, dont be critical of their failures, keep things in perspective, let the small things stay small, share your sexual fantasies with each other, treat each other with dignity and respect........ this works for us and she IS the ideal wife
2006-10-04 06:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best of friends and favorite lovers; in that order always. For we are often times more loving, forgiving and helpful to friends, than we are to loved ones. Find joy in all that pleases your mate, or at least find respect for what makes them happy. And keep ever mindful that fantasies are always greater than reality, during times in which you might be tempted to otherwise stray.
2006-10-04 06:18:59 · answer #11 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋