I'm very interseted to hear what you have to say about this question . The answers reveal a lot about human nature .
2006-10-04 06:02:14 · 6 answers · asked by Geedebb 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The ideal is of course to not do a 'good deed' thinking how it might benefit you. Most if not all of the time you will find giving with selflessness will come back to you in ways you would never expect. Giving, without measure can give a wondrous feeling of peace, and that ought to be enough. Not giving from the heart, or with reservations, is selfish, the polar opposite of what it should be.
2006-10-04 06:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by The Oldest Man In The World 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you do something for someone and expect payment in any form then this self serving, and not a good deed. If you do something for some one anonymously and it makes their life better then this is what I would classify as a good deed
2006-10-04 13:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe people are born Good...and we Want to do things for others, we Want to be known as Accountable, Respectable, etc. *however*, what happens is that when people don't APPRECIATE it, u end up getting worn out, burned out, hurt, confused, and begin to harden up. u begin to think, hey i don't need to do this for others, i need to be selfish too. =T and that's where it starts.
i think we need a Happy Medium: feel free to help others for the sake of being Nice... but if that person doesn't show appreciation, than start distancing urself. don't hate or resent them, but validate those who Deserve it, and distance urself from anyone negative. that way, u will learn to identify and keep around you All things POSITIVE..and the bad friends, the bad people, who u have to learn to live with, but u don't have to constantly be around all the time. that helps with resentment as well..the more u keep doign things for people like that, the more u will resent them!! that is why, sometimes Leaving someone, or stopping friendship, is actually GOOD for that person, because it teaches them that thru their actions, someone has stopped being their friend.
for example, look at a relationship: if there was a man who treated a woman badly (this could go vice versa as well), and each woman he dated ended up leaving him, he'd realize after awhile that he needs to change something. but if a woman stayed w/ him, no matter how horrible he was, it only reinforces his bad behavior!! he starts thinking "no matter what i do, she'll stay". and isntead of Appreciating that, he starts Belittling her. so what u need to do is be humble and selfless, sure. be nice to others, sure. but don't keep bending over backwards for people who PROVE that they don't deserve it. good luck to us all... it is human nature to give and receive, but we need to practice it in a positive way. good luck to us all :)
2006-10-04 13:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to help people that more than likely will not return the favor
there is a greater reward when I help without expecting anything in return
2006-10-04 13:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by 5324 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think about how i would feel if I was the other person. do they really need help? can I help? do I have time to help? If so, I just do it.
i was blessed with certain gifts, i feel it is my duty to look for ways to pay back for what I was given.
2006-10-04 13:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by bttrswt1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will it hurt me?
Will they be ungrateful?
Will they stab me in the back after what I did?
2006-10-04 13:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋