I've been married for 5 1/2 years. My marriage has hit a rut and has become very boring. My husband doesn't pay any attention to me. I've recently started to have feelings for one of our friends who pays me attention. How do I know if the feelings are real for our friend or that I just like the attention?
2006-10-04 06:00:40 · 14 answers · asked by Marygoroun(d) 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I have been married for 13 years. As time goes on in a marriage we all get use to one another and at time we aren't getting the attention we use to get or are we giving it. As the marriage grows everything changes. You two are use to each other and people get comfortable and stop doing the little things. It's a up and down road. Things will get real good again.
You are just looking for attention and that is why you are crushing on this friend,but don't do anything. Enjoy the attention but you need to back away. That is the biggest mistake people make. Plus no matter who you are married too in 5 or 6 years this would happen again. Nothing stays new and exciting. Back away from this person and get over it. Don't let it go anywhere. We all do that it feels good to get attention just as long as you have control and wouldn't do anything then your ok.
2006-10-04 09:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well regardless, you are married. I think that maybe you miss the attention your husband used to give you and are feeding off the attention someone else is giving you freely. Maybe have a talk with your husband. Tell him that you miss the attention... Maybe he isn't paying as much attention because you've been caught up in your lives. Like work, and obligations.. It does not mean he does not love you.. Try that first. I'm sure that once you and your husband are on the same page, you'll find that your feelings for your friend will slowly disappear. You owe it to your marriage and to yourself to try first. If not, then be honest with your husband and yourself. Good luck.
2006-10-04 13:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by KIm Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. I finally realized that I was just enjoying the attention. This guy was just a big flirt and that's all there was to it. Try to spice up your marriage. Leave him little notes or perhaps a chocolate on his pillow. Cover the bed in rose petals. Buy new sheets (like satin or something really soft). Plan a night where you'll watch sports with him but he has to watch a movie or TV show with you. Plan an indoor picnic. Put a blanket on the floor fix something special to eat put some soft romantic music on. Try these things he'll start paying attention to you.
2006-10-04 13:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Marenight 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop stop stop. Do something to make your husband notice that doesn't put you at risk for divorce court or some serious domestic violence. You can't just say boohoo my husband is ignoring me. You have to talk to him. Do something to get him interested again. Give him a bl_w job while you guys are driving down the street. Cook his favorite foods naked wearing stilettos and a smile. Put pictures of yourself wearing naughty lingerie in his pants pocket, wallet and jacket pockets. Girl wake him up and remind him that you're still a woman with some fire left. If he doesn't pay attention after all that then he deserves whatever he gets. But you owe it to your marriage to try before you look somewhere else. If a bl_w job don't wake him up then he's either cheating or dead. Good luck!
2006-10-04 13:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur husband doesnt pay u attention then any man who pays u attention will make u feel good and it will seem to be something real. But dont mess up something good, just try to do stuff new and exciting, thats if u know what i mean. It will make him wake up and see what he has been missing.
2006-10-04 13:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Baby G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just the attention. I also think this is a situation where you and your husband need to have a talk and soon. This will not work itself out on its own. It will get worse and worse over time if untouched. Adultery is not an option. That will only complicate the situation and probably sooner than later. Hit it head on and work it out...good or bad....its better than the alternatives.
2006-10-04 13:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ron B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be that you're in a rut. Sit down with your husband and talk before you do anything. Take the time to decide which way you want to go.
2006-10-04 13:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by lynnca1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just hitting the seven year itch a bit early.......Sounds to me like you are just craving some attention right now. Look at it this way, if it were your husband giving you the attention you would not be having these feelings for friend....hang in there.....you'll be just fine darlin.......
2006-10-04 13:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by paul m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the problem You will never know until you make a decision and even then you wont know. Its a lousy situation. If you want rid of your husband you should always do that first before finding anyone else. Then you know you did it the way you wanted it.
2006-10-04 13:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU JUST ARE LIKING THE ATTENTION. YOU NEED TO TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND & LET HIM KNOW WHAT THE PROBLEMS ARE, THEY CAN BE WORKED OUT... DONT MAKE THE MISTAKE BY THINKING THAT THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE
2006-10-04 13:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋