how early is to early to get married? how long should you wait. me and my fiance have been dating for almost 4 years
2006-10-04 05:56:32 · 32 answers · asked by miraclebaby_2006 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hun... Only you two can determine what time is the right time, you two are the one's in the relationship and are going thru life together experiencing it, when the time comes you'll know, go out one night for dinner and drinks and have a casual conversation about it... Maybe you're ready maybe you're not, only you two can determine that! Good Luck!!! :)
2006-10-04 06:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married soon and we have been dating for a year. I think that length of time is really dependant upon the couple. Some people may think that 4 years is long enough, but you may not. Ask yourself, how well you know the person you're with. Are you comfortable giving up and compromising certain things for him? Because this is what marriage is- a give and take. Are you both mature enough to be married? I don't think there is ever really a "right" time. Some people are together for quite a while and know one another, but they don't last. Others are only together for a few months and then marry and they do last. Marriage, no matter what age or time frame takes work by both couples. If you and your partner are ready to work at it, then go for it. Good luck!!
2006-10-04 06:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by KIm Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought it would be "too early" if you have not experienced at least some of the things that life and relationships have to offer. Once you've been "around the block" a few times, and learn a bit more about people, about yourself, and figure out at least partially what is it that's important to you, you can hope to make a more informed decision about marriage. 4 years is a long time to "date" if you're, say, in your late 20s, but if you're in your teens it makes sense to wait.
2006-10-04 06:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time for dating/marriage. My husband and I dated five years while we finished school and another year of engagement before we got married. We are celebrating our fourth anniversary this month, but we've also been in marriage counseling for the last two years. (I have a friend that married her boyfriend nine months after meeting and they have a storybook marriage) Just know that this is a commitment that will take work on both sides, but it is well worth it!
2006-10-04 06:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, there is not an exact time or any thing in writting about when and if to get married. When you fall in love with someone and they to you, then you can start planning your wedding. Really any age is ok from 16 to 93. Make sure you both really love each other and after 4 years I guess it's time to take that next step - Don't you !
2006-10-04 06:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like this what you see is what you get, so if a man cant make up his mind in about a year, I'm out. Men usually know when they want to keep what they've got. So trust me, after four years,you're ready. Get some counseling and set a date. Unless you are having second thoughts?!.... If it feels right and you are both on the same page go for it.
2006-10-04 06:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time. I was with my husband for almost seven (5 of those were college, and 18 months where we lived in different states with our first jobs).
Another person I know has been with someone for 10 years. She finally gave hime a now or never talk, they are getting married in February.
Unfortunatly for another friend, she asked her boyfried of 2 years if he ever thought of getting married to her, his answere was no...needles to say they are no longer together.
Also, have you been engaged for 4 years or dating? And how long have you been engaged? I know many who are engaged for 2 years due to wedding preperations, halls rental...etc.
2006-10-04 06:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on you and your significant other. Some people I know married after knowing each other for as long as you have, others, after 6 months. There's no real formula for when the right time is to get married.
2006-10-04 06:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the maturity of both people. If you feel you're really committed and ready to take on the world together--go for it. Having a common background, or just things in common helps too. Just keep in mind that guys dont mature as quickly as women. They can act it, but a lot of the time they aren't ready to settle down until they're 26 +. Just something to keep in mind : ). Good luck.
2006-10-04 05:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Christine4tw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old u are now. if its a high school sweetheart kind of thing then just wait a couple more years. if you are older then if u don't know by now then u probably aren't ever going to get to that point where you know its the right thing to do either u know it or u don't. think of spending the rest of your life without this person and if u don't see that as a fate worse than death, just move on.
2006-10-04 06:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋