A question for men. . .?

Question

Is it common for a man to not want to ever marry a woman that he says he wants to be with forever? (despite the fact that they have been dating for a considerable amount of time and he isn't interested in pursuing another relationship) Do all men hate the thought of marriage and will only do so grudgingly, or if pressured?

in answer to Stingray. . .no, his parents were never divorced, mine were, actually and then happily remarried.

You bring up a good point, and I have mulled it over before, but marriage is a commitment that I want for myself at some point in my life. He says that no man is ever happy to get married and it is not possible to find this. I find that difficult to believe.

Answer 1

There is absolutly no advantage for a man to get married,It is an advantage to the woman I.E. if things don't work out she gets 1/2 or more of his stuff.Additionally a 'Cool" wedding costs 20k + jewelry +honeymoon +++. Why? If your in a loving commited relationship appriciate it, there are plenty out there MARRIED to scumbags.

Answer 2

This is a golde hawn and Kurt Russell question. However I see more amd more men and weoman as well, deciding not to marry but co exist. When i question these people there is a resounding number of answer that come as a reply.
Most often the man or woman came from a broken home or a situation whereas thier parent became divorced in which they don't want to repeat thier parents mistakes, another is a lot of men find that after marrage they are not getting what they signed up for with respect to sex, respect, love so by keeping a woman at bay they have less of those issue. I think two people if in love can co exist in that format as long as it is understood the same rules of amrrage apply

Answer 3

No, it is not common. Perhaps he is worried that if things don't work out it will cost him financially, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by suggesting a prenuptial agreement. You might suggest that you think it'd be a good idea, and see what he says, but don't get upset if he agrees with you; for it's better to lose the battle [your pride], and win the war [marriage].

On the other hand, you can just remain silent about it. In most states, if not all, after you have been living together as a couple for a certain number of years, you are, for all intents and purposes considered by law to be married.

Answer 4

I can't and won't speak for any male other than myself . I've been married twice, I feel the reason(s) that it didn't work out ,was on my side . I didn't have the talent for the art of commitment. That goes back to when I was little and the way I was raised [ I was born during WWII which may or may not have anything to do with anything] I don't know if others have this situation or not but to all ladies out there don't be in such a hurry t o jump into society's plans for everybody else ,think for yourself { incidentally both times I was married it was they who proposed(asked me ) good luck out there

Answer 5

Janelle:
You are dealing with an issue much more significant than a ceremony. The public marriage between husband and wife gives an opportunity for others to witness that which has taken place in your hearts, and that is the total giving of yourselves to each other.

Whether or not it is common, it is certainly significant that your mate is avoiding this natural step in a relationship based on love and passion. My advice (it is free and you are welcome to disregard it) is to take this matter very seriously, and have a heart-felt talk about the real reasons behind his reluctance for this commitment.

Have you found your soul mate? Perhaps. But there are some unanswered questions on the table. I wish you well.

Never underestimate the power of love!

Answer 6

That all depends. Is he a child of a broken home? Meaning, are his parents divorced?

Honestly, if you two are happy, and plan on being together "forever", do you really need that piece of paper that says it? I've known couples that have been together for 9 or 10 years with children finally get married only to divorce within a year.

So when it comes down to it, you have to ask yourself which do you want. Happiness or a piece of paper.

Answer 7

Generally, I think marriage is a very personal thing and to some
men, they don't want to talk about it until they're ready for it.
On the contrary, no and not all men hate the thought of marriage
and they are not under pressure to get married. It's more of
mutual understanding and love to get married.
Men usually want to get married if the situation is right and they
are ready to shoulder responsibility, especially when their wives
are willing to bore them children.
However, there are some exceptional ones who fear marriage
because they are incapable of taking responsibility of the wife
and children. These problems could be financial, health or the mental state of mind.

Answer 8

Most of us would not mind marriage so badly, if it was not for the cost to us in many ways. Simply look at the divorce rates and also the cost to use in and out of court. Frankly, most of us cant see anyway to offset the risk and liability we take on in marriage.

Look at it this way. Marriage is like any other human relationship, a business deal for the most part. In most marriages, the man always ends up taking on more responsibility and liability then he gets benefit from it.

Answer 9

Marriage and dating is different as dating most men love as timepass and feel mentally happy as opposite sex attracts. Marriage involves responsibility, mental compability, adjustments and understandability and guys mostly marry the girl whom the find such characteristics. So it is natural for a guy to date with a girl but not to marry her.

Answer 10

Everyone is unique. Sometimes it is the women who is afraid of marriage and commitement.
Everyone has their own expectations and timeline. The thing is for the two of you to understand what the other one wants then determine if you are right for each other in the long run or not.