Do you think a parent can love their children equally?

Answer 1

I do. I recognise both of my children for the unique and totally special people they are, their strengths are different, as are their weaknesses, but I love them both so completely. One hundred percent each.
I used to think it wasn't possible because I am one of 5 and I know that my mother certainly favours the boys over the girls, and because my sister is the academic one that makes her more 'loved' than me, and I just assumed all families had their favourites. My mother is odd though and as each child appeared her love supplies decreased, she seems to have had only 100% love available and rationed it out between us.
A good parent never runs out of love and makes no unfavourable comparisons.

Answer 2

Yes, my Mum loved my 2 sisters and I all equally. I don't think either of us is jealous of another. She's always said things like "Who's my favourite Jane in the world?", that kind of thing. Also, she's always made it clear that she has a special relationship with each of us for different reasons, each pregnancy and birth has been recounted to us individually in such a special, loving way. My Mum's the best! She always got us to share and made sure no-one had more or less than the other. When we grew into adults things changed, the youngest got much more than I, the eldest, ever did at the same age, but then the situation had changed. Mum had a more confortable lifestyle so I didn't feel any resentment. If we are jealous it's between ourselves, or resentment stems from silly things, like one sister "borrowing" something from another and forgetting it was a borrow! Sister stuff really. But we are all so close and all have a different relationship with our Mum. We can also tell her anything, she's always been open and there for us. She laid down the rules and we had to obey by them, we had to do chores but we were recompensed for them. I think it's all down to rules, everyone must obey by them and they have to be correctly applied. Then everyone knows where they are. Also my Mum always praised good behaviour and punished bad behaviour. When we said "Its not fair!", she'd say "Life isn't fair!" which there's no answer to - she's not stupid, my Mum!

Answer 3

Absolutely! I have five children, and I love them equally - but that doesn't mean I LIKE them equally all the time. As they go through different struggles and challenges, they're not always that nice to be around. I still love them, but I sometimes don't approve of their choices - and the resultant repercussions of the behavior. When they're doing "good" things, they like themselves a lot more and are consequently much more enjoyable to be around. My youngest daughter is currently in a relationship with a registered sex offender, and that choice has made her not very fun to be around because she's defying her own value system. But, I still love her just the same!

Answer 4

You never love any two people the same way. Of course you will love your children absolutely, but never equally. Love is something that can't be quantified, but if you're keeping score by things like one-on-one time, number of presents at Christmas, etc., then those are certainly things you can do "equally".

Answer 5

Yes. Afterall, how do you measure love? It isn't portioned out. How would you determine if someone is getting an equal share? I don't think all parents necessarily DO love their children equally but CAN they? YES.

Answer 6

There is something that sticks out differently in each child, that makes them the all be loved equally.

Answer 7

That's what I like to think....It should be that way anyway.
I believe they do love their children the same,maybe they just don't show the same amount or method of affection to their kids.

Answer 8

Yes equally but in different ways for different reasons !

Answer 9

A good parent does.

Answer 10

i think not. they try though. it very hard. i mean if a parent has more than one child. it's easier with 1 child. well anyway, i think that they can't focus on more than 1 child @ the same time!