What to do, or how to act, A little confessed?

Question

I just found out that my dad might have another daughter. She is in her twenties and wants to know my dad and my sisters and brothers. I was just a little hurt that my dad didn't tell us about her and she is like two months older than I am. That means my father was begin a hooker. If my mom found out I can just see it now. They will be getting a DIVORCE I know it. Can some give me some adivce.Thanks

Answer 1

I am sure that was a shock, perhaps your dad didn't know about her until recently as well? What it comes down to is this girl deserves to know her father if she chooses. And you have a half sister that you deserve to know. Hopefully your mom and dad can work out thier issues, but that's just it... It's their issue to resolve. As hard as it is, you have to stay out of it, and do your best to support your parents. Your mom for being betrayed, and your dad for making a huge mistake.

Answer 2

Your dad should've been honest from the start about the daughter. The truth hurts, but in the long run lies hurt more. Try to be supportive even though it will be tough. Your dad has been through many years in torment over the situation. Just sit and talk to him and get the broad picture of the circumstances so you will be able to be objective in the situation. Talk in love and concern and not anger. Pray for understanding and take it a day at a time. We as humans are not perfect; we make mistakes. May God bless you in your efforts.

Answer 3

I think you really need to talk to your dad about it. Ask him your questions. He may not have even known about her so try not to feel that you were cheated of a sister. As far as your mom goes, I would definetly ask your dad if she knows he may of had an affair in the past that they had already dealt with between them. I know that if your this hurt over a sister your mom will really need your support when she finds out that he has a daughter with another woman. I am sorry you have to go through this. I wish you the best and really feel strongly that you should discuss every angle you can think of with your dad. He is going to be the only one who can really help you.

Answer 4

Get in touch with your feelings. It must have thrown you off guard. What is the worst thing about it? What is the best thing about it? Your Dad most likely kept this from you to protect you and not to harm you. You can not change what is done. Your Dad cannot change what is done. I am sure you all have grown, matured and are different people than you were years ago. Now you must decide if you want to accept her/him and build a better relationship or move on. You cannot walk around resenting your Dad and this illiigitamate child. Try to put yourself in your Dads shoes and in this other childs shoes. Think long and hard about your choice. Be sure whatever decision that you arrive at, you can live with. Pray about it. God takes bad sitautions and uses this to build great things from it. Satan uses things like this to divide families, cause bitterness, resentment etc. I hope you rise above this...maybe you can be the sensible adult and forgive, and bring the family together. God speed.

Answer 5

Do not hold against your new sister what your dad may have done years ago. As far as how the family will handle it, well give your parents a bit of credit they are mature enough to handle this. Just don't stress them out anymore than they may already be and don't stress yourself.

Answer 6

At this point, it sounds like you have no hard facts. But rather all that you mention is either assumption &/or conjecture.
Only a DNA test would provide the truth if this person is in fact your half sister. Dont jump to conclusions, and dont run away from anything until you face it!

Answer 7

You should be excited that you have another sibling.... the rest
will have to play out....20 years is a long time...people change and
if he has been with your mom for 20 years plus, I suspect some
understanding is going to have to take place....