For the ladies.
I want my wife to have oral sex but she refuses.
What do you think? Do you? Is it normal?
2006-10-04 05:34:14 · 23 answers · asked by Mr Business 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She was a virgin when I married her
2006-10-04 05:39:34 · update #1
If it is her preference not to do it - find some other ways that are pleasant for BOTH of you. The word BOTH includes her. Do you know how to do an oral sex with woman? Maybe you're making her choke - noone ever likes it, dude. Did you wash yourself thoroughly before that? Noone likes it when it's stinky. Last but not least - women won't do it when they feel unloved. Talk to her, listen to her, show that you love her, and she will love you back. It is not her responcibility to please you. She can only do it willingly.
2006-10-05 09:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Maybe she really doesn't understand. I was a virgin when I got married, I like it (giving and taking).
It is contravercial if it is normal or not - that answer would be an opinion.
Don't talk about this:
1) By arguing and shouting
2) Under stressful conditions such getting ready for work or on the phone.
3)and ESPECIALLY NOT DURING SEX.
Get her when she has unwound from work a little. Make sure she's in a relaxed mood to talk.
Ask her to give it a try - let her know (and it's good to be real about the facts) that the scents and flavours may not be pleasant but you take joy in knowing she is enjoying it. And it would be nice if she made that sacrifice for you knowing you would enjoy it too.
2006-10-04 12:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by gillcamp3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex consists of all the sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth and tongue, to stimulate genitalia. It may be used as foreplay before intercourse, as climax of a sexual act, or even following intercourse.
Tell her why you like oral sex and she may be willing to make you happy either receive from you or give you. Not only are the sexual organs sensitive and well supplied with nerve endings, the same is true of the mouth, tongue and lips, so usually both parties enjoy oral sex soon.
To start ask her to kiss her between legs and try to bring her to the orgasm, be patient.
2006-10-04 12:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she perform oral sex before you were married? Do you reciprocate? Are you demanding or polite when you request it? Does it make her uncomfortable? If so, why?
These are questions you should be asking of your wife. Open communication is vital in a marriage. What other women do in their relationships is irrelevant to yours!
2006-10-04 12:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was a virgin when you got married then everything you ask her to do is new. Somethings are just gross. Give her time. Come to her when you are totally clean like after a shower and ask her to do it again. Yes, I do it all the time.
2006-10-04 12:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be an insecurity invovled, whether it's emotional, physical or physiological, tread carefully.
If you approach to strongly, she may retreat even further into herself and may never wish to broach the subject again.
Be sensitive and show wholehearted concern, do act selfish because she won't do it, nor threaten her that you will go to someone else or leave.
You aren't doing her or yourself any favors, by not respecting your marriage and the responsibilities that come with it.
2006-10-04 12:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by TexasKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My freind, forget about it. She doesnt care what you like or what feels good to you. Best I can tell you is that you should cut out some of what she likes. Also make the point that many of the things you do for her are not things you enjoy, but you do them anyway because you care for her.
Also find out if she ever did it for someone else. Then find out why she is withholding from you what she did for others.
2006-10-04 12:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the girl Asian, as I know a lot of Asian girl don't like receive oral sex.
2006-10-04 12:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked Why???? Maybe she has a good reason, like, I'm not any good at it... I don't know how, or I don't like it.....
If it is I am not any good, tell her you can work on it together.
If it is she doesn't know how... I can help teach you...
If she doesn't like it, ask why? Then go from there...
Some women, do not like to go down if they do not think that their partner is 'clean', some are fearful of the 'head push', some do not like the taste....
2006-10-04 12:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean that you want your wife to do oral sex for you
2006-10-04 13:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋