My girl friend has two boys with the same dad. She lives with their dad's mom house. I have been dated her almost five years. I was there whenever she needs me financial and emotionally. Their dad hasn't support her at all. I always told her to talk to him about her situations. She is not strong enough to deal with him. However she always accept his excuse, and that makes me upset. He lives 5 hour drive away. When he showing up once or twice in a year, everybody happy including her. I am the one here suffer and stress out with her. Should I accept this?
2006-10-04 05:28:37 · 8 answers · asked by Super T. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe it's not shutting your mouth but your wallet!
I'm sure she's plenty strong enough to deal with him. If she can push out a couple of his kids she can surely push him out the door! The father's lack of financial support can be a reflection of how much he actually cares... Now I'm not saying the amount needs to be huge, just that there needs to actually be some money coming form his end... She still loves him. Face it. She is waiting for him. You are paying money for her survive while waiting it out. You can sit there and bring it up time and time again... but it's quite simple... actions speak louder... She is waiting for him, he is playing her... you are paying for this cycle to continue.
2006-10-04 06:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by Deactivate account 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I could see the kids being happy to see their dad but why is she happy to see him? If everything is like you say,why does she even talk to him.He sounds like he`s letting you take care of his family and he does`nt have to go threw any of the down side,but when he shows up,he`s king again. I think you should be looking at the way you are living your life. You don`t sound to happy and if someone is saying you have no say then don`t take care of her stuff. If your good enough to take care of them you should have some say so.They go hand an hand.If she can tell you,you have no say so why can`t she tell him what she should? It doesn`t sound wright to me.Life is short be carefull of how you use it.I may sound hard but i would get it right or i would get gone.I hope the best for you.
2006-10-04 05:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man.... what can I tell you... you better start to think about if you want to be the pacient boyfriend.. I believe that if you have made the commitment to stay in this relationship you have a say on the matters specially if you are taking care of the financial aspects of their lives.
to your girlfriends ex.. I think she needs to redefine her priorities and seek legal councel because he should be giving child support to his kids. unless you are willing to pick up the tab and start looking for these children, she better settle this matter once and for all.
Good luck
2006-10-04 05:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Luis B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-29 08:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by polka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not ready to move on in 5 years I would dump her. She needs to make a decision about what she is going to do with her life.
Most women would not wait 5 years for a man to make up his mind.
2006-10-04 06:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line is that the boys must have a POSITIVE male role model in thier lives, and they must be dealt with for inappropriate behavior. Since you've been seeing her for 5 years now, I think it is past due for you to discuss your role in her boy's lives. ARE YOU thier POSITIVE male role model? If so, you need to be given some liberty to corect when corection is necessary.
2006-10-04 05:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Linder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO put your foot down and tell her to talk to him about it he needs to grow up be a man and supprt his children but props to you for being their for them they do need a father figure in their life and sounds to me like you are a good one congrats!:) keep smilin
2006-10-04 05:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by lita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.If you help her financially, you should have something to say
2006-10-04 05:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋