My fiancee & I both have children from previous relationships.My son's father has a problem with my fiancee's relationship with my son because my 6 y/o told him he is not his father anymore, my fiancee is.My son's father has been in/out of my son's life since birth, sees him once a month.My fiancee is at all of his games, takes him out &is basically raising him.My issue with my son's father's girlfriend's relationship is she badmouths me to my son because she feels she would be a better parent than me. (Her words, not mine) SHE ONLY SEES MY SON ONCE A MONTH WHEN HE'S WITH HIS FATHER!My fiancee's ex wife simply does not like me because she cant let go of the past and bitter that he left her.Her kids did like me, when their father and I were just friends, but since the divorce, that's changed.I'm not upset with the kids because they see me as the reason their parents are no longer together.But their mother tells them I'm a no good b**ch.With this pettiness, how do we work this out?
2006-10-04 05:24:49 · 9 answers · asked by HunnyB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you all need to sit down together..without the kids..and explain that your son and your fiancee's kids are whats important. That everyone needs to put aside their differences for the sake of the kids. Try to be the calm one..the moderator. sounds like a crappy situation to be in... i wish u the best of luck!
2006-10-04 05:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by crazimommi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world of ex's.... This will never stop, but if you try your best, not to bad mouth the ex's in front of the children and treat the children with love and respect, at some point in time they will come around.
As for your son, that is your decision on how you want to handle it, the boy is seeing the difference between dad and 'daddy', speak to him and see how he feels first. Then try to explain that you fiancee can be his daddy, and his father can be his dad.... that way he can start to tell the difference between the two's position in your life.
2006-10-04 12:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case: children are not stupid. They may believe what they are told, but if the facts do not fit with what they witness, eventually they will come to the realization that they were lied to.
Regarding your fiancee: A child will choose as a parent the person that shows them, through their actions, the greatest love. He knows who his real father is, but also knows who shows him the most amount of love; and that to a child is a "parent".
2006-10-04 12:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1: you need to sit down and let your son know that ur currently man is not his father!!! i would be more then pissed too! reguardless of how many times he is in and outta your life,he is still your sons biological father,there is no more! PERIOD!
2: all you can do is be the best you can with the children,and with your current man's ex....maybe with time when she see's you aint going nowhere,it might die,if not,u need to make sure u can deal with the consequences of another mama's babies! your ex also needs to talk with his babie's mom,and come 2 a resolution....she might be pissed for the fact your in the midst of them communicating,and feels its none of your business as i would.... so back off....tell your man,to be a man,step up...and be good to the kids,it should pan out!
2006-10-04 12:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by deliciousdawnella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that are going to think and say what they want no matter what you do. Ignore them, they talk and act like they have no damn sense and have nothing better to do with their time. And to think that out of all the sperm that was released, these are the ones that made it. How proud their parents must be.
2006-10-04 12:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your sons father need to do is spend more time with his son. What do he expect if he is hardly around. And also you guys need to talk for your sons sake.
2006-10-04 12:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty complicated! Anyway, Baby mama and baby daddy should involve baby children in their drama and make them understand their respective roles and position better!
2006-10-04 12:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have a bigger issue than he does since it sounds to me that you are something of a homewrecker. Dont expect his ex-wife to forgive you for that. As for him, if you ex man can't whoop your new man's azz then there is nothing to worry about, because that is all it ever comes to.
2006-10-04 12:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two should move out of the state or try and settle your issues
2006-10-04 12:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋