I am going thro such a tough breakup..?

Question

i have been so sad about my breakup..under so much stress and crying so much. i was with this guy for 2 years and i think he is already interested in other girls. ..yesterday i got into a car accident...and just knowing that he wasnt there for me made it worse. how do i get over such a hard breakup..i mean i know things cant work out between us..but i am so hurt...i cant take the fact knowing he might be talking to other girls..

Answer 1

time girl, time will soften your pain and memories, time is what you need, that and a good friend to lean on. get out there and get going.......go to the movies with your friends or family, surround yourself with positive things and people. it is o.k. to cry and if you need to do it, just don't dwell on the pain for to long. You will find someone who holds the same feelings for you and you will love again, and hopefully be wiser in love in the long run.

Answer 2

Been there, with my first true love after 5 years, but it took time and then after a couple of times falling on my face over the wrong guy I finally found the one. I think if it had not been for all the lessons I learned from the past I would not fully appreciate the man I have now. It will get easier with time, but that doesn't make it easier now, so do your best to be around those who love you and keep busy . Try to find someone that can make you laugh a friend or relative, because laughter is truly the best thing for a broken heart. Doesn't mean you wont find yourself crying yourself to sleep, but those time will become less in time.

Answer 3

I am sorry that you are going through a tough time, if it helps any... I have been through a similar break up before I met my husband, it crushed me. I was crying all of the time and calling his cell phone, but he would never answer. I just didn't want to be alone. Nothing I did made me feel better, but believe it or not, understanding that it just wont work out, is the first step to recovery. No point in crying over him, it's not going to change the fact that you two can't be together and make it work. No one wants to see there ex with another person, but it's going to happen. Time will heal this pain you have, getting out and socializing is also another healing tool. Your going to hurt for awhile, but don't stop living your life because of this pain. Look to a friend for support during this emotional time.

Good luck honey, but believe me, the pain will stop. Find it in your heart to let go.

Answer 4

I am sorry. The bad part about break ups are the simple fact of knowing that the other person is probably dating again and that they are not there when you need or wish them to be there. But you know what screw him! He is not worth your tears. I know it is hard to get over break ups and it seems like the emotional pain will never go away but eventually it will. Maybe you should try to pamper yourself. Like get your nails done, put on some make up, dress real pretty then look and the mirror and see how beautiful you are as a person on the inside and out. There are plenty of fish in the sea. I believe you deserve better even though I do not know you. Sometimes you to have to go through bad relationship in order to find the right one. Please keep your head up and know that everything will be ok.

Answer 5

I too am going through the same thing! It is even worse for me because we have a little girl together and he has been very violent in the past. He uses her to get to me and it hurts real bad.He also is interested in some other girl. Sometimes it just helps to know that your not alone out there! Just reading your question made me feel like I'm not the only one that is totally hurt. Because god only knows how bad we hurt right now! Someone once told me that if you can just realize that the pain your going through is just a temporary thing, and that you won't feel this way forever it helps. Also you need to try and keep busy, pamper your self ( get a hair cut, or a manicure, etc.) I hope this helps you, sincerely someone who cares

Answer 6

It's normal to feel this way. It will take awhile for you to get over it. Just think of this: If he wasnt there for you when you were in a car accident and he's already talking to other girls why should you give him the satisfaction of making you feel like this? If he doesn't care than he wasnt worth it anyway. You sound like a really nice girl with alot of compassion and alot of love to give. Don't let him take that away from you by making you bitter. Just remember that there are so many guys out there, and it may take awhile but eventually you will find the perfect one for you! Take your time to heal, cry as many tears as you need to, even break **** if need be. Eventually these feeling of sadness wil go away. Probobly sooner than you think.
Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 7

Honey, it's for the best this way, than to keep accepting it, and letting him get away with all that bull$hit, I know exactly how you feel, my sister had surgery, and he never even asked how she was doing.
We were engaged, and shortly after 2 weeks of the break-up, he was already seeing other ppl.
It's best that you haul this band-aid off, and let the wound heel, cause he doesn't sound good at all, it hurts, I know exactly how it feels, but just say.. 1...2...3!!! And just leave it altogether, my fiance stopped calling.. stopped seeing me as often, and it suspected to cheating, he talks to all kinds of girls, and he knew that bothered me considering most were single, and it's just bad news.
It hurts me alot to this day.. but eventually those feeling's will start to fade.. it's better to get out of the situation, and find someone that will care, I'm sorry to hear about the accident you were in, I hope your doing okay.. and remember.. you don't need this $hit, walk away from it, and don't look back upon him, let him go off and talk to this one, and let him realize what he fu

Answer 8

I went through the same thing years ago. Just when I thought I was over him...I would find myself in a situation where it was apparent that I wasn't.

You need to find things to keep you busy...especially for the next month or so. If your mind is busy...it won't wonder into areas of torture where you will be thinking about him with other people. Unfortunately, the only thing that will help you move on is time. I tried everything else (drinking, rebounds, flirting with his friends to make him jealous, etc...) and it just didn't work. I finally had to move on with my own life and be productive. I went back to school, got serious about my studies, worked lots of hours at my job...and eventually met Mr. Right. Now I wonder why I ever wasted any time hurting over him.

Be strong...how you handle this now will help shape your future.

Answer 9

Honey, you might was well forget him and move on with your life. Getting hurt is tough and you have the right to feel hurt. But, this hurt will pass in time. Try finding other interests in your life. Start an exercise program if you don't have one already. If you have a bicycle, start taking nice long bike rides. The natural endorphins will help elevate your mood and it is a different avenue in which to meet new people. Good luck!

Answer 10

BabyGirl, as the days go on. It will get easier. I promise you, I was with my ex for 4 years and when I broke it off for him cheating, I was devistated. I lost weight by not eating, didnt hang out much with my friends. If I could give you any advice. Dont let yourself slip into depression. NO MAN if worth that!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep yourself busy, surround yourself with loved ones.

What he does with other girls, is nothing you can control. Take a deep breathe when you start to think of that kinda stuff and call a friend to hang out. Im telling you, the breathe helped me clear my head and helped me from crying again. Good Luck