I'm very much in love with my boyfriend and he says that he loves me "when I ask him".He didnt work for a whole year and I took care of him.Now the table has turned and I am not working but he is.Ever since he got his job he has been talking to me like I'm a dog and not showing me respect.By respect I mean I will be talking to him and he will get up and walk out of the room as though I have not said a word.It makes me want to cry,and I tell him that it hurts me.It goes allot deeper.When I tell him to leave me he says he is in love with me and that he needs me in his life.He will be good for one day and then it's right back to being treated like a dog.If he loves me I'm not seeing it.If he dont love me I dont understand why he dont go when I tell him to.He usually kisses me when he goes to work,but today he didnt kiss me and I didnt even do anything.I just want some outside opinions on the situation please?
2006-10-04 05:13:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you Dr.Philamina but this is my house if anyone is packing up and leaving it will be him.As for going back to my parents thats out of the question I'm 26 with two children.
2006-10-04 06:57:57 · update #1
None of what you explained sounds the least bit like love to me...........
2006-10-04 05:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he loves you but he is feeling overwhelmed by the workload just like I can imagine you were. Maybe he is stressed out at work and feels the need to take it out and because he knows you love him he knows no matter how much crap he gives you, you will take it. You need to try to remain calm without going on the defensive even though I know it is so hard when your feelings or hurt, people say and do things to the people we love, especially men because they are trained early on not to show emotions and they inevitably hurt the ones they love.
2006-10-04 05:24:08 · answer #2 · answered by confusedpatricia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would he leave? You let him treat you like crap, you probably give sex when he wants it, cook his meals, do his laundry. Sounds like he really does need you! If you don't respect yourself, why would he respect you? You need to pack your bags and leave! Go back to your parents if you can, and get your life sorted it out. Go back to school or get a job, even if it's a flipping burgers job, while you look for something better.
2006-10-04 05:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh its boot time. take it from a man if he's treating you like this now theirs something goin on eitheir the sex isnt as good or someone else or he''s a user. but something is going on.steel tips work best but time to give some boot.
2006-10-04 05:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by crank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can truly tell if he loves you or not. Sounds like he is dealing with some stress with work maybe?
2006-10-04 05:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love irrelevant... he doesn't respect you. Why on earth would you stay one day longer with a guy that doesn't respect you?
What advice would you give to your daughter if she were in this situation? Why would accept anything less?
2006-10-04 05:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can you tell if he still loves you? i think you already answered that question.......is this how you pictured your life with the one you love? is this what you pictured love to be? if you say yes to those questions then you need a new perspective on love and how to show it. Leave his sorry a** and find someone worthy of sharing your life with, someone worthy to give your love to. I think you were looking for validation and I am giving that to you......leave and you have my blessing.
2006-10-04 05:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have to be smart.what do you want ,this is your life.if you don't like the way he makes you feel,its up to you to make your self feel good,you cannot depend on him to take care of you.you need to do that your self.love your self first,then some one can love you back the way you need him to.
2006-10-04 05:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by cool mom32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jack@ss, these are learned behaviors, and you won't be able to change him... He's got issues... you can try counseling if he's willing, my guess is that he won't be open to it.
2006-10-04 05:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rob B 69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When is enough ,enough for you?thats when you will leave,when you are able to answer that simple question.
2006-10-04 05:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋