This is affecting my life. At least once a week, I break down. I moved to CA with my husband because he missed his family terribly. I let my son live with his father because of a better opportunity for him. I don't know what to do.
2006-10-04 05:12:39 · 6 answers · asked by nefertiti_1018 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your husband will resent you if you make him leave his family again. I moved away from my mom 2 years ago... from Cleveland to Dallas and it has been hard however we make it work. How old is your son? If he is grown then you have some dependency issues.
2006-10-04 05:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear one,
This is a very complex issue you have aired. I can assure you of this on thing from first hand knowledge.
If you left your child with an ex-spouse to make another life. That will become an issue with the child at some point, your credibility as a parent in that childs eyes will be forever changed into something you do not want to be. I hear your pain even through the one dimensional venue of cyberspace messaging. It will not get any better for you, as a matter of fact what you are now feeling is the onset of more and deeper concerns to come. You are apparently a loving mother and this will gnaw at you forever until you find resolve within and find away to share the two loves of your life. Whatever you choose to do it will be difficult. But you can do this. Think of the child, he or she is your future , apart of you. Your husband now should be able to understand this. If you are miserable now just wait until afew years go by, if you are not happy you can not possibly make anyone else happy either. Pray about this alot, and I trust that all will be made right.
Hugs,
Jim
2006-10-04 12:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down with your husband and talked to him about your feelings? If not go do it! Maybe you guys can work something out. If traveling to see your son is out of the question,and your husband is not going to move back, then you will need to make up your mind about what is really more important to you.. your son or your husband!
2006-10-04 12:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart! If you being there doesnt make you happy than go where it does make you happy. Talk to your spouse about options or talk to him about how you feel. If he doesn't seem to care than you need to understand you made sacrifices for him to move back with his family, so you miss your son thats should be much more bigger for you. So sweetie go with your heart tells you to do!
2006-10-04 12:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by smile114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce. You're not ready to be married.
2006-10-04 12:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but talking openly both may compromise
2006-10-04 12:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋