not sure what to do for the best..or the worst.
a bit of background before the actual main bit.
i was in a relationship with a girl(A) for 11 years on and off, we have two lovely children aged 7+15
I am now in a relationship with a girl(B) and have been seeing her for 3 years.My mam is still good friends with (A).but has really only met (B) on a handfull of occasions, but like to think that friends could be a word i would use,for them both.
i dont get on at all with (A)this is known to all of my family
ok here goes.My mam is getting married again, she said that for financial reasons only immediate family would be invited,but because of the children,girl(A)has been invited, and not girl(B) (she gets on with the kids great,BTW)..now cant please everybody i know, but i am miffed, and told mam so..feel mam has put friendship with(A)b4 me.HELP!!.Feel as tho i am putting spanners in the works!.My sisters partner of 5 years is invited, so i would feel(apart from the kids)fairly alone!!!!
2006-10-04 05:08:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do need to see my mam(mom for you lovely Americans!!) face to face, as only found this out by a telephone call..
I am not against anybody going...even my dislike(and I am sure hers) of girl(A) will be put on the back burner for the day, both girls have met...and even tho no friendship is there, sure it can be a nice day for all...I will when i speak to my mam mention the financial aspect, and see if it is just that..or maybe there is an underlining problem...
will report back..thanks for the answers so far....Might also sleep on what has been said before acting on anything..!!
Michael
2006-10-04 05:28:36 · update #1
have asked my mam to meet me and discuss the matter in hand...will be honest with her...and expect her to be the same...
I feel different emotions at the moment....
Dont want to rock any boats...so should i give in and not spoil the day for her and her groom.......or
Should i stick to my guns and not give in until an invite is given...
On some occasions my mam has taken girl(A) side over mine on some pretty serious times...and i have felt let down by her...maybe all of this will come to some head..!!!!
Michael
2006-10-04 06:16:48 · update #2
Your mam bless her heart, is completely wrong for not inviting your woman (B), the childrens mother should get and invite from your mam, but it is out of context to say that because she(A) is the mother of your children is the reason for the invite. You should confess to your mam before it's to late and let her know that if you are unable to bring (B) then your afraid that it would be an insult to your current relationship and that you will be sad but unable to attend. Let your mam know that she is not considering (B) or your feelings.
2006-10-04 05:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by A Friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's right that your mother hasn't invite your girlfriend.
Sit down and speak to your mother about again. Ask her why she wasn't invited. She might be concerned that if both A and B are there that a conflict could arise. Explain to her and reassure her that your all adults and that everyone will be on their best behaviour.
Maybe you should also bring your girlfriend around your mom more often so that they can get to know each other.
Good Luck
2006-10-04 05:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I agree with you. It is who you are with now that is important and I can't believe that your mam wouldn't have invited her! It is nice that (A) and your mam are still friends but she really isn't part of the family anymore. That isn't fair and I would sit down with your mam and talk to her about this situation...Good Luck!
2006-10-04 05:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough spot you're in allright. I would tell you mother how you feel and offer to pay for your current girlfriend's meal or whatever the costs are that she's concerned about. Your mom's probably hoping you will reconcile with the original woman.
2006-10-04 05:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go to the Wedding if your girlfriend now is not invited. I understand wanting the grandchildren there, but you are there father you bring them.... If mom doesnt change this i wouldnt go... Your relationship with your present lady is and should be more important than playing momma's game....
2006-10-04 05:13:00 · answer #5 · answered by justthinkininfla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U Going to marry girl B? Do you love her? If so tell your Mother you will not be present with out your girlfriend. Stand by your gal if you love her.
2006-10-04 05:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Mom is trying to manipulate you and disrespect your current fiancee. I would not go if she wasn't invited -- what is one more person!
2006-10-04 05:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Starr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can I ask a question, what is a mam?
2006-10-04 05:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by PUDDIN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got a headache from reading that.....brb with answer
2006-10-04 05:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋