I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls. I am so happy having the family that I have. My girls are beautiful, and very smart. Lately I have been thinking of trying to find a couple that cannot conceive. So that they may adopt. Im not pregnant now... but was thinking of it. Its not considering selling your baby is it? is it wrong.? I heard that some couples will pay alot of money to adopt a child. and well, my husband and I have made 2 great babies so far... so id like to make some other couple happy. I just feel so bad for those couples that try so hard to have a baby and they cant... and adoption processes take so long. Please let me know what you think?
2006-10-04 05:07:39 · 21 answers · asked by 2girlsmother 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
could you really give up your own child to total strangers? You can give your child up for adoption but you have to go through lawyers and the court.
2006-10-04 05:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful to think of doing such a selfless act, but you should know the bond between a mother and a baby. Could you really give up a baby? I know a couple that just adopted a baby from an unwed mother of two. She was young and didn't even have full custody of her two children. After the baby was born, the parents of the baby's father convinced her to take the baby back after 2 months. Even if she wouldn't have taken the baby, the grandparents could've petitioned the court to adopt the baby. I don't know if this is possible in all states, but it's something else to consider. Would your husband or any grandparents be opposed to giving the baby up for adoption?
I would suggest talking to some adoption agencies. They may be able to give you some resources for learning more about this process and perhaps talking to other women who have had babies for other couples.
God bless you.
2006-10-04 05:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would avoid making babies just so someone can adopt them. There are already SO MANY children in the system, you don't need to make more. What you can do however, is visit http://www.surrogatemothers.com/
This is a site that matches people with surrogates. You can use your own eggs or their's. It is all done by IVF. The family pays for all of your medical expenses. The details are all on this site. I was once a member, but then decided to be a surrogate for my best friend so I had to get out. If you get pregnant at any time(by your husband) while in the program, you have to leave. It's a great organization though and I reccomend it!
2006-10-04 05:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, too, am wondering if you could give up a child to another couple.... it may help if the sperm donor were the other couple's husband, the adoptive dad... It is illegal to "sell a child" which is probalby why the idea feels wrong to you. Adoptive parents are allowed to pay normal medical and legal expenses and housing, but not a "profit."
You may consider donating your eggs, instead. That way the eggs can be fertilized by someone you never meet, and implanted in a woman you've never met, you grant the couple a child, and you never get attached to the child growing in your belly.
2006-10-04 05:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar Pie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it would feel great for you to give something so precious to another person but I think the best thing for people that can't have their own is to Adopt a child who is already on this Earth... I know the process takes along time but at least a child who didn't have a home will get one... I feel so bad for those children who live in temporary foster homes, and orphanages.... When my current children grow up and move out I will be adopting a child that needs a home and a loving family....
2006-10-04 05:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by secret agent lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very genuine thought, and would make a couple very happy, but if you look on the other side of the spectrum, you're taking a home away from another child who is waiting to be adopted. I'm not sure what to say either way, but there's too many children already waiting for homes.
2006-10-04 05:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh Once i started to read what you wrote it was like an answer to my prayers.
I am a married women who's having a hard time conceiving and have had no luck. . i was going to try all the things you would do if you went to a fertility doctor and realized it would either work or it wouldn't.
I amconsidering adoption but seems you have to be qualified too .
I would give anything right now to have a child of my own. or to have the honor to raise someone one else's child as my own. as i too was adopted .
I find myself having a hard time wanting to be around kids since i so want one. but have to put on that i'mhappy for you face.
If I could have one wish come true i'd want to have a child or two of my own to raise wither there from me or giving to me. There just precious gift from God.
I'm in MN and looking to adopt.
you are like an God sent angel to offer yourself like that.
:D
2006-10-04 05:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a surrogate mother. That means you carry their baby for them. It is their genetic material but your body. Be careful though, it can be complicated. There are agencies out there that can help you find a couple that needs your help. Selling a child is illegal, and you can get in a lot of trouble. But, if you go through the proper process, your generosity will make a big impact.
2006-10-04 05:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by nmtgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is great that you are willing to get pregnant and give your child up for a couple who can't have children. However, I personally could not get pregnant with my husband child and give it too a stranger. What I would do is carry a child for a couple using they sperm etc, instead of mine and my husbands.
It also seems like you are selling your child to someone. I have children too and Iove my children with a passion, I am also pregnant now with my 4th child and I could never give him up too no one.
I would rather give one of my eggs, then too give up a child that I had to carry full term... If this is what you really want to do then research first to go about doing it the right way and the legal way..
(Good Luck)!!!!
2006-10-04 05:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy that you are blessed with the gift of carrying children and are willing to share that gift for ithers who are not. There for a while I thought I was not, however, I am 13 weeks and everything is going well.
Have you thought about being a surrogate mother, being implanted with egg and sperm of the other couple? I think that would be great.
2006-10-04 05:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by Emily J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you want to do is wonderful. I have been married for 3 years and I am older than my husband. He has never has the chance to be a father. I cannot have children and we are looking for someone that is pregnant and just wants to give their child a loving home. Don't worry about what others may think of you. You have a big heart. I cry myself to sleep at night for something I may never have again.
2006-10-06 05:23:17 · answer #11 · answered by lynn s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋