ok here it is... I've been going out with this girl for over a month now, yet recently I found out she cheated on me in the first week of us going out. She denies it all yet I've talked to the guy she cheated on me with. Being that I got close to her and forgave her for it how am I suppposed to talk to her about her cheated on me now that I know for sure that she did it.......... keep in mind that I have already forgave her for it.
2006-10-04 04:41:32 · 13 answers · asked by ¥Captain_Random¥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you chose to forgive her then you have to look past this.
I know that sucks, but you did in fact forgive her, you shouldn't have forgiven her if it really hurts you. Think before you react.
Don't keep bringing up the past, it is only going to hurt you, and make you miserable. If you can't forgive and forget then do yourself a favor and get out of the relationship. Or move on with this person and stop thinking about it.
2006-10-04 04:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, just because the guy says so doesn't make it fact. Maybe he's jealous or wants to break you up so he can have a try at her.
In the first week you were going out, was there a defined exclusive dating rule set. Why would you think that's cheating if that wasn't defined? After all it is called 'dating' for a reason. We date to get to know each other and ourselves. By dating we learn what we like and want from our partners.
If she's with you and not the other guy (assuming there's truth to his tale) and if she's who you want to be with, then what's the problem. If she went out with anybody else before you two were exclusive, it's really none of your business unless she chooses to share that with you. You can't bully her into telling you anything.
2006-10-04 04:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Phyllis C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already forgiven her for it, then it should not be an issue. The issue seems to be that she is lying about it... Tell her that you know she did it, you have forgiven her for it and you need her to come clean so that the two of you can start fresh with nothing hanging over your relationship. If you know she did and you know she is lying and she will not come clean, then you need to find another girl, because there will be other doubts. Call it an amnesty day where both of you are free to confess anything that the two of you need to confess without any judgment, without any fear and start new and fresh...
2006-10-04 04:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to continue the relationship with this woman, and forgave her, then don't bring it up anymore. Just pray that she doesnt do it again. That's where you draw the line for trust
2006-10-04 04:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by browndog513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you know that she did it and forgave her. If she does it again, dump her or tell her if she is going to do that then you will have an open relationship and you two can see other people as well. .
2006-10-04 04:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know without a doubt that she did it and she keeps denying it, well then buddy she is going to lie to you anytime she feels she needs to. Think about it.
2006-10-04 04:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your first question should be to her why did she lie to you about it? If she lies about one thing she will lie about something else. And why would she lie about it if it was the first week you were dating?? You guys couldn't have been that serious that soon. Even though you have forgiven her I still wouldn't trust her. Just my opinion though.
2006-10-04 04:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lorrie W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will haunt you for the rest of your relationship. One month is no time in the grand scheme of life, move on and find another one not so whore like
2006-10-04 04:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by phjamo2021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated on you that means she don't love or care for you she'll do it again,and she would not want to talk about it because she's ashame.
2006-10-04 05:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't tell you the truth think about what else she may lie about.
2006-10-04 04:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by faybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋