One of my best friends from high school has recently contacted me. She wants to rekindle our friendship. I found out after we lost touch that she'd TRIED to have sex more than once with my then boyfriend, who is now my fiancee. She's had sex with 2 previous boyfriends of mine that I know of. I've never mentioned it to her in the few times we've talked since then; have just been keeping my distance. Now it seems she wants to go back to how we used to be. I'm trying to be nice but the more I think of how she betrayed me, the more I want to f**k her up. How do I keep my cool and explain to her that friendship is not possible?
2006-10-04 04:30:23 · 9 answers · asked by HunnyB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she hurt you. Just move on. If she can't take a hint you don't want to talk to her anymore, then be blunt and tell her flat out you have no interest in being friends with her and not to try to contact you again. If she asks why, just tell her you have found out some things about her past that affect your trust in her and you only have friends around you can trust.
2006-10-04 04:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why are you still calling her your best friend? She's obviously not. Second, why do you have to be nice? You've grown up and moved on, so should she. I had an ex-best friend from high school contact me as well. At first I thought I'd talk to her, but keep it light. It became obvious quick that she hadn't changed. She was hanging with the same people, going to the same clubs, still getting drunk and high all the time. A few people in her circle of friends had even committed suicide. I eventually told her it was time to grow up (she was 26 and still clubbing?!) and that I just couldn't sit around and hear about how she wastes her life. When she decides it's time to be an adult and take some responsibility, she's got my email address. As for you and your "best friend" just keep on keeping your distance. If she doesn't take the hint, just tell her you've moved on and so should she. So what if she gets upset?
2006-10-04 04:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by Amy S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm waiting to artwork out why you're extremely annoyed and sense as in the adventure that your privateness has been invaded. Your mom in regulation sounds extremely "smothering" (for loss of a greater effective term). yet, maybe she is overly quite delighted on the situation of the toddler and he or she or he could additionally be lonely.... the toddler in all probability skill the worldwide to her. No you're quite no longer being a *****. yet each and every so generally we'd desire to step shrink decrease back and settle for others at face fee. it extremely is quicker or later a week, so maybe you could desire to enable her preserve the toddler on an identical time as you're taking excitement in some imaginative venture on Wednesdays, distinctive than in the process the time you're breast feeding. Do you like scrapbooking, artwork, jewelry making? i'm useful there is a few venture you could artwork directly to take you removed from the stressful feeling. Plus you're arranged to have a performed venture to look at as straight away as you're finished. basically a be unsleeping -- mini albums are particularly some exciting and you will stumble on particularly some useful ones on You Tube and additionally tutorials on the thank you to lead them to. i assume it may desire to be relaxing so you might make some mini's on your toddler photos? it extremely is a concept. i'm sending advantages... xx
2016-12-12 20:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how you are still labeling her as your best friend. Just tell her that you don't agree with the way she lives her life, so it is best that she stay out of yours. Why are you worried about putting it too her nicely? It doesn't seem to me that she was worried about putting anything to you nicely. She isn't worth your energy or time.
2006-10-04 04:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that the two of you have grown apart, that you'll always remember her as a best friend, but you're older now and have to move on.
2006-10-04 04:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i had a problem with a friend of mine also.i didnt really want to be friends with her.its a long story,but like you i didnt want to hurt her feelings either what i did eventually was stop taking all calls from her,and all contact.they will get the message eventually.it may sound mean but i had too.i was tired of all the shi*.in your case it will probably work also.you dont want to be friends with her after what she did.id stop talking to her period.good luck
2006-10-04 04:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by lori b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell this person that your interests are different now. She may not be all to blame for what has happened. Your boyfriends don't sound like angels to me.
2006-10-04 04:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you trying to be nice? Tell her she's a skanky ho and you don't have room for people like her in your life!
2006-10-04 04:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple! Listen you SLU* get the F*** away from me I don't want to be your friend.
2006-10-04 04:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by sexyangelkiss26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋