Have been really good friends with a small group of girls over the past 10 years. Ive gone through alot of personal struggles for two thirds of the time that I have known them. We have drifted apart and undergone a whole lot of changes in that time. Mostly, I have withdrawn and focused on whats been going on for me. Last two years, we have really tried to rebuild our friendship. No more pleasentries and for the sake of appreances attitude. These two particular firends have been there for me during some really dark times. Ive put them through hell over and over again. They feel that I don't communicate with them, that I don't allow them to say what they feel or recognize that they have feelings too. Walked away alot of times, but they have always been there to drag me back in. I finally asked them not to be a part of my life anymore. I don't feel like I belong in this relationship and that it would be better if I moved on without them. Was I right in this decision? Advice?
2006-10-04 04:18:40 · 10 answers · asked by poof-a-nini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is always hope. I'm sorry to say this but the way you have told the story it makes you look selfish. I mean if they have been there for you during your dark times and have always pulled and accepted you back when you went astray, why are you constantly pushing them away? I would understand if you said they are bad influences or terrible people, but you have painted a wonderful picture of two very caring people. I would have to say no this wasn't the right decision, but I'm sure they'll be there for you when you are ready to return. Just not sure how many times they will allow themselves to be hurt until the next time you are ready to have them in your life.
Best Wishes!
2006-10-04 04:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what they are dragging you back into? If they just want to have an equal friendship, where they get to speak their feelings as often as you have, then yes you are wrong. Any relationship requires give and take, and if you are the one taking all the time, it is more amazing they hadn't asked you to leave. Again, this is based on what you are typing, for some reason I think you may have left out some information.
2006-10-04 04:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by HomePapa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we get older we outgrow some of our relationships and stay in others. Make a list why and why not you should remain friends and after that you still wish to end it then you can with a clear conscience. Maybe you could also suggest that you need more time to evaluate because it is a shame to give up a support system.
2006-10-04 04:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty selfish. It takes a lot to ask people not to be their friends. Good friends are hard to find. The ones that go through the worst times, with you are even harder to find. Hope you find what you're looking for by yourself. Some people do not need friends.
2006-10-04 04:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to do what's right for you...pleasantries aren't the way you handle things...me either!! I hung out with the same crowd for a few years...and when things took a bad turn for me...they were NO where to be found!! THe actually asked to borrow money from me while they had their backs turned...so I cut loose from them and haven't looked back...there are more friends out there to be made!! Leave the past in the past and look forward...
2006-10-04 04:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they really care about you. Truly good friends are hard to come by. I wouldn't shut them out unless there's more you're not saying...
2006-10-04 04:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide is this is a relationship that you want to be in. If you want it you do what you can to save it,, if you dont want it...you move on.
2006-10-04 04:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to decide if that was what you really want you because you know them and you know what they will feel
2006-10-04 04:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right in movein on. you seem to have move on
2006-10-04 04:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by BRIAN R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PERSONAL CHOICE.
2006-10-04 04:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋