My ex & I were together for over a year, we split up when I was 4-5months pregnant. He's recently told me that he has no intentions of moving on, our daughter is now coming up to 5 months of age. He has fallen back into drugs (he stopped when I told him to do so at the start of our relationship, & as far as I know did not use them during the relationship) & alcohol every wkend -"I'm going to stop soon, I'm just having a little fun". He has made several comments such as: I wouldnt know where to look if he were to take our daughter & that I would not have a chance in hell of getting her back & I am scared he may just try to take her! When he is around her I am scared for her because I don't know if he's on drugs or if hes coming down or what!? Any help/ suggestions would be much appreciated
2006-10-04 04:03:28 · 6 answers · asked by myimmortal000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well something for you to think about. You call him an ex. Make sure that he is never alone with your child. You move on and find someone that you care for.. If he is on drugs report him. If he is an alcoholic and shows up drunk report him. they will soon have enough on him that will eventually end him up in jail. and you won't have to worry about him.
If you are afraid that he is going to take the child out of the house and take her away have someone there with you while he is visiting..
that way he can't over power you and get her out of the house.
Get a restraining order put on him and tell them when you are getting it what your fears are.. and that he is on drugs and a drunk.. that way until he is clean he can't come near the child.
there are alot of things you can do besides worrying.. that apparently isn't making you feel more comfortable about things.
is he helping out with paying to suport her.. is he working so that he can help suport her.. there are alot of ways to keep him away if you are afraid that he will harm her in anyway.
your best bet is to go to the cops and get something started now and see if they can give you some legal advise on what to do.
good luck.. get something going before your worst fears come true.
2006-10-04 04:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need the advise of a good attny. At which time question the validity of a restraining order....as well as visitation.
If he's still using, you owe it to your baby and yourself, that he not be in your lives. He needs to be clean, sober, and gainfully employed before any considerations be made.
2006-10-04 04:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for sole custody of your daughter so he wouldn't be legally be allowed to take her without your permission and if he refuses to get his sh*t together I wouldnt have anything to do with him. He is no good to your daughter while on drugs and saying making kidnapping threats. He has to want to help himself. YOU can not help him.
2006-10-04 04:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get a restraining order against him. It sounds like he'll really hurt you or his daughter. Be safe
2006-10-04 04:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by mickey_ds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may need legal help in this matter. change to visitation rights or possibly a restraining order.
2006-10-04 04:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO COURT AND FILE FOR FULL CUSTODY. WHEN AND IF HE TRIES TO TAKE YOUR CHILD YOU HAVE THE LAW ON YOUR SIDE.
2006-10-04 04:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋