4th grade student-how do I convey that it is important to strive to do better?

Question

I want him to know that his best is acceptable but that it is important to want to strech yourself-and your abilities. I don't want him to settle for mediocre, but I don't want to shame his attempts and abilities...

Answer 1

If you find out please let me know!! My daughter is doing poorly too--mostly C's--and i know its not because she can't do the work. She's smart and could do so much better if she applies herself--I don't know what is going on in her brain! Its almost as if she has this desire to test my patience limit. She has to take the LEAP exam this year and if she doesn't pass then she will have to repeat the 4th grade. I tell her this and its like, so what? I don't care....

Answer 2

That is a tough one!
Just try, when he does his best, say it is good, very good sometimes. Then say, you know, you can do even better.
In this world best is also not always good enough in a competition.
You could also find real stories of achievers.
Go slow. Take time. not all at one. So you do not stunt the growth.
OH and I wouldn't ever bribe. But you could sort of "hang a carrot on the nose" by saying, if he achieves " whatever" , you will gift him "something" specific. Something he asks for that you do not give in when he does.
Wish you best.

Answer 3

BRIBBERY