her body for money. i hate her lifestyle and want her to change . she wont listen to me but she lives with me in my attic and has nowhere to go. im afraid if i say the wrong thing she might leave and never come back. what should i do???
2006-10-04 03:32:44 · 17 answers · asked by sexy sasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you continue to let her stay in your attic all you are doing is enabling her to continue the same behavior. Contributing to her addiction....... Go to her, tell her how you feel and tell her that you will help her get into a rehab, shelter, someplace with professionals that can help her and you will be there for her but if she is not ready to do that then you have to let her go. Because she knows that she has you to fall back on her and that there are no real consequences for her actions. I had to do the same thing with my sister......One of the hardest things I ever had to do.... My sister is in a rehab now and has been clean for 8months and holds a job and is going to back to school to be a nurse. Good Luck!
2006-10-04 05:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by fluterby2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK...not only does she have a problem but she is dragging you into her disturbed life. Honey, you don't need this. A junkie will take everyone they can down with them. She will beg, borrow and steal from you without regard to your feelings. First, you can't "save" her unless she wants to be saved. Second, get her OUT of your home and take her to a shelter. Third, DO NOT LET HER BACK IN. Tell her when she's cleaned up, you can be friends again. She hasn't hit bottom yet and you are enabling her to stay in her current condition. When she hits the bottom, and no one will come to her rescue, she'll seek help. In the meantime, give her alot of tough love and help yourself out of this situation because you are just helping her stay a prostitute and a junkie as it is. Godloveya.
2006-10-04 03:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help someone who does not what to help themselfs. Move on. She is not your friend anymore. Her lifestyle is. The drugs are her new friend now. Tough love works once in a while. I dumped 2 friends that took drugs and i heard from one after one year and now we are friends again. She quit that junk. I refuse to be around anyone that does hard drugs. You want to be around people who are trying to live in life. Not being around ones who are trying to kill themselfs. The more you support her being around her? She will never get her act straighten up.
Good luck to both of you.
2006-10-04 03:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i agree ...its not the best profession to choose !
well talking may scare her away ! wat u need is to be tactful ! y dont u take her for some kind of seminars and all .......somethign she minght be interested in ! you must be knowing what her talents are ...maybe if you helped her recognise what she was good in then maybe she wud realise that she is wasting her life by getting into prostitution and all !
plus once she is comfortable with you try to tell her that what she is doing is illegal and tat its very dangerous for her life !
she should make more frnds who have a job and all.........this way she will get to see what her life would be like if she got a job instead of her present profession !!
guide her so she finds her way , but dont get angry when u say all this. you will have to be verry patient with her and help her a lot .
spend more time with her , she will come around , if she doesnt try to go for professional help !
all the best
i hope your friend recovers
2006-10-04 03:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your place and if u dont like what she does then its time for her to go. She isnt going to listen to you cos right now shes feeding her drug lifestyle with her body and thats all she cares about. Next she will start stealing from you....u can try an intervention or something but who knows if it will work guess u can only try. She has to b willing to change her lifestyle.
2006-10-04 03:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is what you do...You waltz up to the attic grab her drag her down the stairs and out into the driveway and beat her asss and then tell her she can either stand up and make something of her self and respect herself and your friendship OR she can get out and live in a cardboard box in a alley with the rest of who she is starting to be because quite frankly she is a disgrace to society! If that doesn't get through to her nothing will. But her living on your grounds just enables her to be the dumb asss she is being!!!!!!
2006-10-04 03:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm thinking intervention here. Gather anyone else who cares about her and a substance abuse counselor and have a pow wow in the attic. Either she goes into a treatment facility or she's on her own down her path to self destruction.
2006-10-04 03:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to talk to her. It's not good for herself to be doing what she is doing. Tell her that you really care about her and youre affraid of what she is doing is really hurting herself. But if she's a true friend she wouldn't put your friendship on the line like that and just leave you because your trying to help her and show her you really care. Hope this helped!!
2006-10-04 03:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by ♥£eah♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ppl change but your friend being like this is really a sad thing. sit her down and talk to her. come out straight and tell her how you feel about this. talk to her. try to get her help. even if she doesn't want it sometimes they would and that would change them back. she might get mad for awhile but she knew that you were just helping her. if she won't listen tell her to leave but you never know she'll come running back to you.
2006-10-04 03:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by mommie2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is on drugs, she is the only one who can decide when to stop. Once she hits rock bottom, she will see what is wrong. For now, you are only enabling her by giving her a place to stay. Tell her you love her however you can't watch her destroy her own life. Tell her it hurts you to watch her and you need her to go.
2006-10-04 03:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋