A friend and I when we were in high school both liked the same guy in fact we were both in love with him, he also was a friend of ours. But the guy and I eventually began a relationship and I didn't tell my friend and she ended up finding out from someone else. She stopped speaking to me for a while but then started coming around again and even tried to take my bf away from me. Now I'm married to this guy and she's also in a relationship with someone and has her own baby with her bf. Love doesn't go away overnight so I know she still has feelings for my husband but hasn't come out and said it or done anything to make me think that she does. My family is telling me to let her go it's not worth it but she's been my friend since childhood and although things happened in the past on both our ends people do grow-up right? So what should I do now? I mean my husband doesn't talk to her or anything anymore but do you think this friendship is worth it or not?
2006-10-04 03:28:13 · 7 answers · asked by bettyspagettii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that you and her should stay friends but if you feel that she is taking your kindness and friendship for weakness than she doesn't deserve to be your friend.
2006-10-04 03:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by dcoley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see if I understand this....you two girls liked the same guy in high school and the three of you were friends. You began a "relationship" with the guy but kept it secret from your "friend". She found out from someone other than you and ceased being your friend. Now you're married to the guy and your high school friend is back in the picture but hasn't made any passes or anything other than a respectful attempt at friendship AND she has a child with someone else. And you're worried? Sounds to me like you have a guilty conscience. I would agree that staying away from her might be the right thing to do but not for the same reason as the others have suggested. Not trusting her because of the tacky way you both handled the situation in high school is unfair.....to all three of you....and certainly isn't a good basis for any sort of friendship. Doesn't sound to me like anyone has a problem with her except you. I apologize in advance for sounding somewhat caustic.....just trying to get you to see what's really going on, in my never-to-be-humble opinion.
2006-10-04 10:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe love doesnt just dissapear !! but u say tat she is with someone else so mayb she is in love with this person !
maybe she is over your husband !
i dont think you should break your friendship over somethign you think is existing !
plus you trust your husband , so you have nothign to worry about !
but if u feel tat she still loves him then maybe u shud keep a distance!
but be nice !! dont break your friendship !
2006-10-04 10:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've both outgrown the friendship. It would be easier for you both if you just met occasionally or cut it off completely. Godloveya.
2006-10-04 10:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friends and discuss it slowly and be more tolerant and understanding..try to work it out and don't make things complicated..hope that helped..good luck..
2006-10-04 10:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dante-rebillion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont she is your friend still but sit down with her and talk to her tell her do you like my huband and just talk to her no yelling
2006-10-04 10:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by dangerous_beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away from her
2006-10-04 10:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by fayem7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋