k, I met my fiancee at a huge party that the city has. We hit it off and I didnt expect to have anything with him. After a couple of failed attempts of trying to see each other, we finally met up and since then, we have been together. I moved in with him and his parents and have been living there for about 5 months. We are now planning to get married and we talk about having children. I love him alot and i know that he feels the same. What do yall think? too soon or should i follow my heart?
2006-10-04 03:17:38 · 16 answers · asked by Just Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Follow your heart,who nows were it will take you but i bet it is somewhere wonderful.Be sure to make sure he is a guy you know will not do abuse,cheating,or any of that stuff.Well good luck and if you need anymore help email me @ cheerhope23@yahoo.com bye:)
2006-10-04 03:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In matters of love it is truly best to follow your heart. When I met my husband he epidimized everything that I DIDN'T want in a guy. He drank, he hung out with a bad crowd, he was young and immature, and he had an absolutley crazy family. BUT, there was something about him that stirred my heart and when I looked through the outer baggage, I saw a man that I knew I could love forever. My love and acceptance of him helped him shake off all those things that I saw in that first meeting....and his love and acceptance of me helped to change me for the better too.
The most important thing in knowing that your relationship will LAST is looking beyond the "infatuation" that most people call "falling in love." That will wear off after a year or two and you have to know that you two will have the skills to make it through that time without thinking..."i just don't love him/her anymore" Real love isn't infatuation, it's the depth of feeling that you get from making through hard times.
SO......if you have great communication, a freindship that surpasses lust, and you truly LOVE each other....then go for it!
It worked for my husband and I....we got married after 5 months and now we're coming up on our 5th wedding anniversary and happier than ever.
Good Luck!
2006-10-04 03:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times things happen for a reason. Maybe this is what is meant for you and him, but always realize that problems may occur because you two have only known each other a short time. Follow your heart, but be prepared for anything.
2006-10-04 03:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by lambdaelement6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say follow your heart, but on that note, the two of you both need to get a place together where you can be alone with out his parents being around....this way they dont but into your relationship. Living with family sounds good at first, but the two of you need that freedome and time alone....so go for it!!!!
2006-10-04 03:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learnt to trust my inner-most instincts and when I didn't, I always got it wrong; the fact that you are even asking yourself if you should or not then maybe you are not supposed to act so fast. marriage is supposed to be forever, so make sure that you only make such a decision only and only when you are absolutely, unecquivocally, non doughtedly sure about this coz really you do dot want to come back to your mothers house after thinking you had left forever, just because you didn't make the right move or couldn't wait a little longer! so think about it, A LOT!
2006-10-04 03:35:46 · answer #5 · answered by dobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart.
up until now i would have said to soon. but im in a similar thing. my bf and i aren't getting married anytime soon but we know we will, we both go to college and they are 7 hours apart. we've been together 6 months and it feels lik forever. Follow your heart on this one. thats all u can do to keep yourself happy.
2006-10-04 03:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can really put a time frame on these things. If you are both ready for the commitment, then I say go for it. Of course, I happen to think that by you asking this question that you aren't 100% sure about it. You have both got to be ready for this, and it sounds like either you aren't sure about yourself, or you aren't sure about him.
2006-10-04 03:35:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart because you know that you are not going to listen to anyone else right now. But be prepared, sometimes following your heart can lead to heartache.
2006-10-04 03:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew my husband two months when we got married.....twelve years ago. we are still very much in love and looking forward to alot more years together. follow your heart it will lead you down the right path.
2006-10-04 03:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think its too soon to have children you're still living on his parents house. Why don't you wait till you have your own, or if you're ok there are you financially and emotionally prepared for that.
2006-10-04 03:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Link 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋