I have some friends that have been going through some very difficult times lately (evection, new baby, downsizing) & are getting slowly back on thier feet. I helped them move (which they asked) & have been helping them unpack (fire hazzard). She has post partdum & a teenager & he is working 2 jobs to pay the bills. They have six cats that are going on everything. I offered the use of my washer/dryer & the girl gave me 8 trash bags of clothes which later I discovered were all hers, non sorted & covered in cat ****/****. Nor did they give me soap or dryer sheets. I know they don't have $, but I'm feeling a bit like a servant. Clean & dirty are always on the floor & they forget to throw out the trash or do the dishes for days. (I've thrown out pots full of maggots). They have enough stuff for two families & no shelving to speak of. Should I continue to help or am I enabling them?
2006-10-04 03:07:29 · 12 answers · asked by speranzacampbell 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
they are taking advantage of you, tell them whats up and you should charge for your services, even if they are your friends.
2006-10-04 03:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel as though they are taking advantage you probably are. So, I would suggest that if you offer the use of washer and dryer, she can sort and do her own laundry, why would you do it for her. And she should supply her own laundry soap, if they have money to care for all of those cats they can surely purchase some laundry soap, and if they do not have dryer sheets well then they just do not have them, I would not use mine. They should be cleaning up after themselves, you are not the maid service. The cats should be cut down to one perhaps since they are having such a hard time they are unable to care for themselves they need to think logically. good luck and God bless.
2006-10-04 03:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh lordy honey do you really need to ask that question? Your friends are totally taking advantage of you. Real friends would never impose on you like that. If someone handed me 8 bags of laundry covered with cat urine I would have been irrate. Stop being a sucker and tell them to 1. get rid of their damn cats because if they can't feed themselves they have no business having animals. 2. Think about why they were evicted? 3. Pay you foryour services. I bet when you ask for money for your time things would change. My dear, there is nothing wrong with helping people when they are down and out but there comes a time when enough is enough! I say let them fend for themselves.
2006-10-04 03:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mia R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is beyond taking advantage. It seems the politeness has just flown right out the window. It becomes taking advantage as soon as they lost consideration for yourself. If they couldn't afford a place they the can't afford cats that first off.
Secondly if they're not working the should do their share around the house to show apprectation it doesn't appear to me that they're paying any type of rent.
About the laundry I would say screw trying to use my washer and dryer with all that animal crap. I would have send them to the laundry matt with a roll of quarters maybe two.
If I were you I would send them to the classifieds as soon as possible.
2006-10-04 03:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by chris s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD GAWD GIRL.... limit time spent with people like this...
Everyone wakes up every day with choices to make.... These people OBVIOUSLY CHOOSE to live that way... YOU are NOT helping, you are making yourself stressed.
MOVE ON !
I have been in situations like this and people keep asking for more. I now do nothing for those who ask and I search out the people who could use my help but are to proud to ask or take advantage of.
You have a lesson to learn here. I hope you were paying attention !!
2006-10-04 03:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I examine all of it... the in elementary words thanks to get them out is being impolite. Being impolite is even to magnificent for them. they're so no longer appreciating **** and also you should teach him how magnificent you've been being. Kick them the hell out. enable them stay on the streets or bypass again. they don't have any suitable. they're interfearing with your little ones. in the journey that they are waking up your little ones or bothering them in besides and they are the visitors, they favor to leave. They immediately out ought to leave. they're charging you funds on unnecessary such issues because the electricity. i understand how intense priced it quite is. It develop into 308 funds very last month without ac. I stay in florida too. P.S. that is coming from a fifteen twelve months previous.
2016-12-04 06:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by bainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to them and let them know what you have been going through and what you feel. Be compassionate but firm. Sometimes people don't realize what they are doing. If after you talk to them and they do not try to fix the problem and you continue to let them take advantage of you then yes you are enabling them
2006-10-04 03:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by Trekfuel80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should get nothing else from you. You have gone above and beyond what any person could reasonably be expected to do to help a relativemuch less a friend. Ex communicate and get out now....these people wouldn't happen to be Katrina "victims" would they?
2006-10-04 03:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by bullybrian2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your are being avery good friend. just stay on your toes. A friend is very good have and very very hard to find. I myself was like you to my family. I own a business and they was eating all of the profit up, i just sat them down and expalin to them the situation. The truth cant be argue with. any farther question email me a ShopSaveBuy@yahoo.com
Brian
2006-10-04 03:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Brian T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ppl start to take advantage of ur goodniess.... if they cant afford money wise....atleast they can help u physically....forget helping u they r making u wash their clothes....if u want to be helpful ...please tell them u can allow them use the stuff but they have to do it bythemselves....if u cant say straight... make excuse...that u have something imp to do n kindly do ur thing.... all the best
2006-10-04 03:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw the line at being responsible.
2006-10-04 03:09:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋