My husband's b-day was yesterday & I didn't know what to get him so I did something I thought he would love. I'm quite reserved in bed so this was out there for me. I bought him a pair of sexy boxers and a skimpy nightie for me. I put the boxers in a gift bag along with a can of whipped cream along with a beautiful card and a naughty note and left it on the bed. Then I went to shower and shave down south (something he has told me he really likes) and slipped on the nightie. (This was all the night before his b-day). Found him in bed and he said that he liked the gift but he was extremly tired and asked that we wait until the next night (his b-day) I was disappointed but agreed because I knew he had, had a rough day at work. So his b-day I had to go to the store around 9pm and when I got back he had the kids in bed already and asked if I was ready to go to bed which is usually the signal for 'I wanna play'. So I quickly get the house locked up and get ready for bed.
2006-10-04 03:07:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry ran out of room. So I slip into bed to find him already asleep! He had completely forgotten! Then the next morning he wakes me up for a quickie and to add insult to injury doesn't even aknowledge the fact that I had shaved for him like he didn't even notice. And he knows that I dislike doing it because of the discomfort of it growing back. And he had the nerve to ask why I'm irritated.
2006-10-04 03:12:40 · update #1
Wanted to add...I knew he was tired the first night, that's why I let it slide but he didn't have to work on his b-day so he shouldn't have been tired.
2006-10-04 03:21:32 · update #2
What a bunch of shi t. I would be pissed too. Some people say not to take it personally but how cant you. If my wife did that for me, I don't care how tired I was I would show my appreciation for it. What an asshole! I know how you feel, my wife and I one night were talking about shaving and K-Y lotion and all that good stuff and we were to do it the next night. Well I shaved and was ready to go and she said "oh I forgot the lotion and I am kid of tired right now" WTF!!! I felt like a complete idiot for going thru all the trouble and getting do excited all for nothing. The same thing happened with a vibrator, we both stayed up looking on line for the toy and she sounded all excited about it and when it came in..........nothing, it's been about 2 months now and she has not even seen it. I took it from under the bed and hid it so the kids won't find it, not like we are going to use IT anyway. Sooo I know how you feel and you should be mad and have every right to be hurt. You should also tell him know how you feel and why you feel that way! Good luck, piss on him.
2006-10-04 03:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I would be irritated at my husband if he did the same thing, but at the same time, if your husband has been working hard, and working extra hours, than i'd only be upset over it for a day or two. If I where you i'd sit him down and explain to him how doing all of this work for his b-day and he didn't even acknowledge the fact that you shaved for him, and that he put you off the first night, and the second night he forgot and fell asleep, let him know exactly how that made you feel. He will most likely apologize to you and than he will probably be the one to surprise you with a romantic night out and time for sex shortly after you tell him how that made you feel. I believe in talking things out, and never going to bed angry. Comunication is a big thing in a relationship so be open and talk about your feelings towards that special night you had planned for his b-day, to only have it shredded.
2006-10-04 03:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by danielle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a break. He works hard and is tired when he gets home. As far as your area down south, keep it shaved and you won't have to worry about irritation.
2006-10-04 03:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take things to heart very much and I would be hurt too. I would feel rejected. He should somehow make it up to you and notice all the things you had done for him. Tell him how you feel, but don't tell him in an ill-mannered tone. Just ask him to put himself in your position. You wanted a romantic night for his bday and he didn't show you any thanks. Yes, I would be upset but the only way to solve this is to talk about it.
2006-10-04 03:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I... I... I... can't believe this guy. i would have been into it it like a moth to a flame.
Excuse for saying this but if all the things you did for him are way out of the ordinary for you i would have been so touched by it I would have cried. Well, not before banging our brains out.
It's a shame. try talking to him and see if there isn't something deeper that is wrong with him.
2006-10-04 03:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So did you guys do it the next night? He probably was totally exhausted. Believe me, I am super attracted to my partner however there are some nights that there is no way I am gonna do it. Men are very simple creatures... don't read too much into us.
2006-10-04 03:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dam what an A.$.$. he is. You remember that next time he is in the mood.. He may have had a rough day, but he could at least enjoyed your b-day present. You should have said. sorry no rain checks.....But then he did want to wait till his birthday, so I guess you could give him one more chance on his birthday.....
2006-10-04 03:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men would have taken advantage of the situation, but you do have to take his day into consideration. You are the only one who truly knows him well enough to know if he was truly exhausted. I wouldn't take it personal though.
2006-10-04 03:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And then???????
2006-10-04 03:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Putt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋