My fiancee just broke up with me last night. She told me she still loves me, but that right now she doesn't have time for a relationship, and that she has felt weighed down ever since I proposed. I asked her if she needed some space, or some time to work things out, and she said no, it was just better if she quit. She said she still wants to be in my life. The problem is, I am never going to be able to just be friends, and as long as I know she still loves me, I am going to be able to settle. So, my question is, should I wait for the woman I think I am meant to be with, or do I tell her that it would be better if we didn't talk for a while?
2006-10-04 03:02:39 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe some time apart will be good for her. If your there all the time she cant miss you. If you take yourself out of the picture for a while maybe she will relize what she is missing. On the other hand she may be fine and move on, if she does then you have to accept this as hard as it will be. Better to find out now than after getting married. I am sorry to hear about this Good Luck
2006-10-04 03:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm. This is a tough question because you feel you are meant to be with her. She is the one having the problem with the relationship not you. It sounds to me she's giving up, and I don't want to speculate that there is another man. You don't want to continue on with your life waiting for her and hoping she changes her mind. If she is finished with the relationship then I suggest you move on. This kind of behavior will only continue in the relationship. She will continue to change her mind. I suggest that you do not remain friends. It will be easier for you to move past this relationship. That way you can start fresh and when you meet someone new you don't have to tell your ex all about it, blah, blah. It will also help you heal in the long run. If you remain friends you will be always hanging on to the fact she might run back to you. You may not be able to open yourself completely up to another woman if you always have her in the back of your mind. There is the right person out there for you and she would never want to end a relationship she will do anything for you....
2006-10-04 03:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ought to take some time and see what happens. She did say yes to a proposal so she might still want to be with you. Getting married can be a scary thing for some and she just might be having the jitters. So give her some space and give yourself a deadline, without telling her the deadline, and if she comes back in that time, resume the relationship. If she doesn't, then be honest enough with yourself to move on.
2006-10-04 03:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Red1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait. You'll just be wasting your time. If the two of you end up together in the future that's one thing, but if you sit around waiting for her to realize what's she's lost or for her to come back then you'll be losing out. Get out there, spend time with friends and family, be active, just don't sit at home pining away over somebody who doesn't feel the same way you do. It may hurt now, but in 6 months or a year you'll be glad you didn't wait for her.
2006-10-04 03:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by sommerluvn77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she broke up with you. She didn't just call off the engagement. I think I would let her make the next move. If you see someone else you might like to go out with, ask them out. If she had just put a hold on the engagement I would say wait and give her time, but if she broke up with you then move on.
2006-10-04 03:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just isn't ready for commitment. If she really still "wants to be in your life", then don't shut her out. Give it some time, see what happens. But talk to YOURSELF realistically. She may be trying to let you down easy. Be prepared for the fact that the relationship may have no future, and if you see positive signs of that, then cut the ties and move on. You'll get over it faster that way.
2006-10-04 03:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is probably better if you didn't talk for awhile. Give her the space she seems to need to work things out, and give yourself time to see whether there is someone out there that is right for you, someone who can give you their love selflessly and without exception.
Telling someone that you still love them but don't have time for them is in my opinion a cowardly way to say that you love them as a friend but are not "in" love with them any more.
2006-10-04 03:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least she was honest enough to break it off when she realized that the relationship wasnt working for her. No, I dont think you should wait. She isnt gonna change her mind. And if its too difficult for you to be around her then tell her the 'friend' thing insnt gonna work either.
2006-10-04 03:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that's a tough one. If you truly love her and she loves you. It would be worth the wait. Time has a way of letting things work themselves out. Hang in there.
2006-10-04 03:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah man, you need to quit her cold turkey. Being around her is only going to drag you through the mud. You will always suffer if she is in your life and you can't have her. Cut your losses, move on and perhpas the two of you will cross paths again in the future.
2006-10-04 03:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋