Okay, my fiance' has been telling one of her closest friends all about our sex life. She has been telling her friend how well I eat her, the size of my package, how long our sessions last, how many times a day we do it and everything. Her friend has now asked me if I would have sex with her just one time, because she wants to see what it is like. She has even told my fiance that she would like to do it with me just once before we get married and my fiance is okay with it and is actually encouraging it. She seems very firm that it can only be once and that her friend knows it will not ever be repeated.
I do not even know if I could do it, but the question is, should I or is this a test to see if I pass or fail. I am wondering if they are just trying to see if I will cheat... Opinions?
2006-10-04 02:58:03 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one should ever pressure you to do anything sexually that you are not comfortable with. Sex should be something that you and your partner only do with each other. It can be very damaging to a relationship to step outside of it, even once. Be clear with your fiance that this is not something you want to do. If she continues to pressure you, then she does not love and respect you.
2006-10-04 03:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very very very bad sign. If your dilemna is whether or not to sleep with the friend then that is up to you. However, as for the effect it will have on a potential marriage it is like shooting yourself in the foot.
Your fiancee has too little respect for what should be private between you by sharing so many personal details.
A marriage needs to be sacred and private. It is what makes it special. The sharing and combining of 2 lives. Unfortunately, I think that you should cut your losses and move on. She is not marriage material and you will find yourself regretting marrying her in a very short time.
Testing you to see if you will cheat is a childish thing and is also a sure sign that she isn't ready for the commitment. Her friend hasn't any respect for her friend's relationship nor you. How long do you think it would be before her friend started encouraging her to experiment with other men? In all probablity it is probably an excuse for the friend to prove herself to be a better lover than her friend because she is jealous and wants what you give to her friend for herself however, the difference is the emotional connection. I'm sorry but your fiance DOES NOT TRULY love you or she wouldn't be so willing to share.
2006-10-04 03:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Test or no test, you need to stay away from this one. You will score big with the fiance' if you turn this down and tell her that she is the only one you will ever be with. Tell her to tell her friend that you are flattered, but that you just could not do that to the woman you are going to marry...It would be a bad way to start off the marriage, she would forever wonder if you were true after that.
2006-10-04 03:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definately wouldnt do it it may be tempting prehaps well it would be to some people . but i wouldnt do it it might change things between you and your fiance plus you do not want to do anything your un comfortable with either and there is the chance that they are testing you out ; ) i would stay away if i was you and keep things great how they are allready with your fiance . im getting wed in 2 weeks and i know i wouldnt do it . i hope i helped you and good luck xx
2006-10-04 03:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would because you could be bushwhacked, but furthermore it's a little odd. Image how you're gonna feel next time this friend is at the house. Will you feel ok with the situation, will your wife to be have regrets, will you find her better than you wife and desire her secretly for months and maybe years to come.
The implications here are great.
Personally I wouldn't. Unless you are insecure and need like you need to prove something to yourself.
2006-10-04 03:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do that. Seems like a test to me. If you really love your fiancee, there shouldn't be any question about it!! And, even if her friend is attractive and all, honestly, I don't think you would mentally be able to deal with it. Most likely, you won't even get hard. Good luck in whatever you decide but I would not do that....
2006-10-04 03:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by bradnmich2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be faithful to your wife and honour her by being her sole sex partner. What do you think you would feel after your wife has had sex with someone just because you told her that she could and you encouraged it? You will feel jealousy. Your wife would feel the same way about you. There will be an overwhelming sense of insecurity.
2006-10-04 03:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by lkraie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I doubt if you can find one traingle that ever had smooth sailing the whole venture. It could be a test, but even if it isnt, what happens if one of you thinks so much of it that another proposiion follows?
Dont do it.... nothing with any long term benefit will come from it...
2006-10-04 03:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by barn cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel she is testing u...be firm and tell ur fiance that u are keeping urself for ur her only and u r not some sex toy to be thrown around by her to her friends for a one time fling. she might be shocked initially but her loyalty to u will be at least doubled after that...
2006-10-04 03:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the dilema? I don't see any here. Just say no. I would question your fiance's morals at the same time. Do you want to marry someone with such ideas?
2006-10-04 06:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋