I met a man from the net. We became b/f for 7 months. Sometime in August a lady requested to be added to my list. It turned out that she is also an online g/f of the same man. I confronted him but it upset him. He doesn't want to talk about the girl nor of the issue. He keeps on denying. I sent him an email explaining to him how i found out and clear matters up. He didn't answer. I IM him, he would not send a reply. I called him up but he would not pick up the phone. Was it wrong to ask him to clarify things? Do i sound crazy because i did that? Please I need your answer, be kind to me. No harsh words.
2006-10-04 02:54:31 · 13 answers · asked by madc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If this is an online friendship you have every right to ask and no real reason to. If you have been seeing the man and he has been pretending only to see you, then again you have the right to ask and you have good to as well. It was not wrong to ask the man to clarify the situation. Both of you need to be clear about where you stand in whatever is going on or isn't. I learned a real long time ago that anything that has to be kept a secret is something that shouldn't be in the first place. I don't care if it is a he said she said or how money was spent or what someone did. If it HAS to be a secret there is something wrong about it. The only exception to that rule is surprises, by which I mean good surprises can be kept secret. The key there is that they are not intended to be kept secret forever or they wouldn't be any good either. Now something is going on. Don't you think it is just a little bit strange that the other on line g/f of your online b/f contacted you and asked to be on your list? Where pray tell did she find you, how was she able to do that and why would she do that? Now, the fact that you have had to try to tackle him for an honest answer should be another big red flag. You have tried to talk to him, you have sent him an email, an im and phoned him but he is responding tho initially he denied everything. Well, it seems to me you could believe him but I think that would be foolish, or you can stand back see how you have chased him and pressured for a different answer. Then you can see, I hope, that is time to quit pressuring and chasing. Either it was a test and you failed or a trick and you and he are both victims or he is as close to the other lady as you and he have been, infact, he may have put her up to emailing you so that she would cause you to get angry and walk away so that he would not have to be the heavy and say I have someone else, sorry, bye. My money is on the latter and that makes him a coward. You are the one with the 7 months of getting to know him. What answer is the one you would bet on
2006-10-04 03:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by beverly p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dr that right wat u did, as me 2 i have my b/f when i find something wrong i always ask him, he is the only one who can tell me the real thing. as 4 u when he didn't reply it mean that now he realized that he did something wrong or he is guilty. As may be he don't want to talk to u as may b he found that u have known his play and u won't get into his trap again.. hey can i advised u something plz ingore him , he will come towards u then just c it. or leave him u will found a better one the one who will care 4 u and always will explain u wat u want 2. as i think a guy who love u will always try to eliminate the distance which has occurred , think well after doing an action. i know that u love him but it is not neccesary that he loves u as much u do so
2006-10-04 03:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by giri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy then yeah it was the right thing to do. On the internet of in person a b/f is a b/f. He doesnt want to talk to you cuz he knows hes been caught. And im sorry for this but he probably doesnt want to "see" you anymore.Sorry.Just try to find a man that you can see face to face and youll be alot happier.
Internet realationships are a b***h to work out.
good luck
2006-10-04 03:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Reesa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont be harsh on urself.u did nothing wrong in asking him.in-fact u did the best thing in trying to clear it up instead of losing sleep over it.but seems like he's not as straight as u r.dont sacrifice ur respect as a woman for such a man.u did what you had to do now leave it to him.he doesnt deserve more of ur attention.even if he makes a move u should think carefully whether u really want to be with someone so little trust-worthy.
2006-10-04 03:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's clearly lying to you. Yes you did the right thing by asking him to clarify. Obviously you caught him in the lie. So now he cant/wont speak with you. Believe me, it is NO loss to you. He's undoubtedly a loser. Thank your lucky stars that you found out.
Please dont allow yourself to get serious with anyone that you dont really know in person.
2006-10-04 03:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind and no harsh words? Do you really want an actual answer or just a boost of self confidence?
2006-10-04 02:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, u were not wrong. U needed to get things straight. I dont think u need him. U really need to get rid of him. If he did get mad, then what was the reason. He is just mad that he got caught and u were smart enough to figure it out. Get rid of him and u can do better.
2006-10-04 03:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by good4u06@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was not wrong because i would have did the same thing, you have a right to know what is going on he shouldn't be talking to others girls on the net of he already have you
2006-10-04 02:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you caught him. You did nothings wrong. You were concerned. Apparently he knows the gig is up and has moved on to others. You should move on as well
2006-10-04 02:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by football23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys ever met in person or is this an entirely online thing? If it is all online, you need to get out more.
2006-10-04 02:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋