suicide and depression????

Question

my friend has been depressed and i dont know what to do to help her> She has started to cut
anyone know what to say to her....

Answer 1

tell her you are there for her..and that what she does hurts you more than it does her.
tell her that you love her and no matter what you'll be there when she needs you most..but you have to mean what you say

Answer 2

I've been suffering from depression for 20 years now and I've had alot of rough times with suicidal attempts. It's probably not what you wanted to hear but I battle with this chemical imbalance every day. I've been seeing the same psychiatrist for 20 years and with therapy and medication my symptoms are much better. In the past I also got to the point where I shut out all my friends and family members. Now...that can be dangerous. People who suffer from depression should not be alone alot. "We" all need a tight net group to support us. When you're alone alot, you can only see the negative around you. You're friend needs to be surrounded with positive people.
If you're very close to this friend why not be honest and tell her how worried you are. Make her understand that she is not suffering alone. There are so many people who suffer from some kind of depression. Also, let her know that she is a person worthy of getting help. Most importantly, she should "not" feel ashamed of her problem.
As her friend you can research on the internet for information on depression. The key to dealing with this illness is understanding it.
Whatever you decide to do, please don't give up on her. She'll need you even though she might give you the impression that she doesn't. We all need to know that we have a purpose in life and work at it. I've researched depression, suicide and other chemical imbalances. This has made a huge difference in my life. (in a positive way, I mean)
I hope some of my experiences with this illness will help you to better understand your dear good friend.
You can even show her what I wrote you. She's just as important as any other human beeing.

Answer 3

Don't say anything contact help!!! She is in a very very serious stage that will ultimately end in suicide. Self Mutilation is a effort to take inner pain and turn it into physical pain because physical pain is easier to deal with it also takes the attention away to whatever it is that is bothering her. This only works for a while and it really isn't a effective form of relief thus resulting in suicide. Do you have any idea why she is feeling this way? Maybe abuse or rape, divorce, death in the family or friend? There has to be a trigger somewhere even if she herself doesn't really know why she is so desperate. It could be a plan blunt call for help and if it goes ignored it will be bad, even if she gets locked in a treatment facility she may feel that this is not her favorable attention she planed on but she WILL get the help she needs. It is pretty important she finds herself in a hospital before it is too late. I CANT EXPRESS ENOUGH HOW SERIOUS THIS IS her suicide attempt could be days to weeks away or maybe even hours but everyday that goes by is one sooner to her doing it. PLEASE call a hospital and report her. She may hate you now for it but she won't in the future GUARANTEED!! Please, we don't need to lose another to suicide. It is such a terrible thing to do and it takes away all hope for the future to get better. I wish I could talk to her but even then I know it really wouldn't help. She needs the watchful eye of a professional to handle this. As far as what to say to her, tell her you love her and if she needs anyone or anything to come to you. Give her a shoulder to lean on. Make her promise not to do anything dumb with out first talking to you. This is the best you can do but understand depression is a deep deep dark cloud that hangs over you it is like a heaviness in your chest you cant get rid of. Half of depression is the glasses you look through that makes it seem the world isn't for you everyone would be better with out you and etc. In other words she may hear you say I love you but in her mind it is something like she is lying, or yeah right how can anyone, and things like that. So if she does try suicide wither she succeeds or not IT WILL NOT BE YOUR FAULT IN ANYWAY SHAPE OR FORM!!!! She is disillusioned. But the best thing you can do is report her so she can be locked in a mental heath care facility. If it doesn't work for her at least you tried!!!! Trust me, it sounds bad but it is her only ticket out of this. Once she sees just a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel than she can start pulling her way out but until then all there is, is hopelessness!!!! If you want someone to talk to furthermore about this feel free to contact me!!!

Answer 4

Please try to get your friend to talk to a trusted adult. Your friend may need professional counseling and treatment. Help is available – counselors can teach positive ways to cope with problems without turning to self-injury.

I am 45 nd have had self abusive behaviors for many years. Sadly it went on as long as it did because No one cared about me. I can see you care very much for your friend. According to the Surgeon General, a youth commits suicide every two hours in our country Suicidal behavior is the end result of a complex interaction of psychiatric, social and familial factors.


Many people cut themselves because it gives them a sense of relief. Some people use cutting as a means to cope with any problem. Some teens say that when they hurt themselves, they are trying to stop feeling lonely, angry, or hopeless. Some teens who hurt themselves have low self-esteem, they may feel unloved by their family and friends, and they may have an eating disorder, an alcohol or drug problem, or may have been victims of abuse.

Answer 5

Tell her to go get professional help. She is either really depressed or a total drama queen. Either way she needs professional help.

Answer 6

get her some help. an old friend of mine did the same thing. we didn't want her to hurt herself so we got her help. she wouldn't take it so we had given her a card its like a lifeline. we just handed to her and told her, she could use this card and hand it to anyone. that she was free to go on her on. go to this website:
www.yelloribbon.org

or you can or your friend can call this hotlines:

1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

Answer 7

oh sweet heart you need to call her parents or tell somebody...she needs to get some help...She will be mad at you for telling and not trust you but maybe she is wanting you to find someone to help her because she is scared to..I know this is a really hard time for you and her but You really need to get her some help.It would be better for a friend to be mad at you because you care enough to find her help rather than lose a friend in death because you were afraid to try and get her help.

Answer 8

well if you could tell me more about wots going on i could mybe help you why is she so low i av been through it becosue i lost my gf if its to do wiv that stick close to her take her out everday dnt leave her side untill shes better an feels good mybe find her anew fella or lady to get her ex of her head if its that

Answer 9

its sounds stupid but take her to the mall or something just go shopping whole day long, eat cholate, and let her know that you will always help her... and get profesional help for her...

Answer 10

depressed bout wot? if itz love then just tell this
"do u realy think you'll be able to win your lover if you kill yourself?"