My b/f brings my daughter home from daycare. When they walk in the door, I speak to my b/f. When I see my daughter's face, I pick her up, swing her around, kiss her, hug her and tell her how much I missed her. My b/f says he feels less important when I do this becaues he's just standing there the whole time and I do is say "hello" to him. He says I don't seem happy when I see him and that I don't ask how he's doing or how was his day. Technically, he is less important compared to my daughter. But I dont obviously want to make him feel that way. Am I being inconsiderate of his feelings or don't I have a right to be happier to see my daughter than I am to see him? Or should I try to display the same exitement for them both although honestly I don't feel the same excitement?
2006-10-04 02:38:31 · 11 answers · asked by melcar12345 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should show him the same love & care that you show your daughter. Let him know you love & care for him too. He is obviously hurt. Yes, your daughter comes first (for if your boyfriend is not the father), but you don't want him feeling abandoned. Or after your daughter goes to sleep, then talk to your boyfriend. Have alone time for just the two of you to discuss your day & how things are. Let him know he is important too, but also let him know that your daughter does come first. If you don't feel that happy to see him, then you need to step back & think if you wanna be with him. If you aren't happy & excited, then something isn't right. Being in love someone is about having that feeling everyday & about to bust out for when you see them. Just think about your feelings & then talk to him.
Everything will work out. Promise. Good luck though.
2006-10-04 02:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by xjalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up. He being jealous of an 11 month old. However, maybe something more then just a hello would be nice; a kiss maybe, some sign of appreciation. How was you're day would be great. Actually, I'm kinda starting to see his point. t isn't an excitement issue as much as it is a consideration issue. After all, he is doing you the favor of bringing your daughter home from day care, isn't he?
2006-10-04 02:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE is the one being inconsiderate of feelings. How immature to throw a fit like a child. He needs to understand that children come first. He had his time in the spotlight now he needs to step back a little and let the child know how much she is loved.
2006-10-04 02:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by brunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not the first man to feel that way
there are stages in life that men have a hard time with
a girlfriend, becomes a wife, becomes a mother... and all the time he wonders where the girlfriend went.....because in the gf/ bf stage her eyes are just on him... and then it changes...
This is just how it goes and ...yes it is hard for him ..but make time for him when your daughter is sleeping away at the sitters...
You child is the most precious gift there is and there is nothing more wonderrful than having one.. you are doing awesome with her making her feel secure... bravo
The bf is a bigboy.... he just needs to wait his turn....
2006-10-04 02:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ xjayln Don't neglect your hubby or youre gonna be raising her by yourself. I can't believed all the femminist crap out there!!! Next time why don't you scoop up your daughter then smooch up your hubby at the same time ,this will let him know that you want him to be involved and that he has not been replaced..Men are simple(no offence guys) But gennerally if you give them either sex or a sandwich, or both they are happy!!!
2006-10-04 02:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to probability she desires to feed herself. She is fairly the right age to %. up small products of nutrition and placed them in her mouth. commence with small products of cooked pasta, products of banana, some meat (meatballs are comfortable, and in simple terms the superb length). placed it on the tray in front of her and turn around and do some thing else. Or grant it to her in case you're all eating, so which you have some thing else to do. The extra interest you pay to her habit, the pickier she'll get and the extra subject concerns you have over nutrition, so attempt to not urge her to consume or make a great situation of what she's eating. you will get great suggestions approximately suitable nutrition (which at this age is virtually each and everything you consume) on Gil Rapley's toddler led weaning website.
2016-10-15 12:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look your child is WAY more important than he is. he is acting rediculous. look when he comes through the door give him some more attention, kiss, hows your day, and you can do this b4, during or, after you play with your little girl, and make her feel like a princess. and then talk to him and find out what more you can do.
2006-10-04 02:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you pick your daughter up instead, or at least go with him. Your daughter is only a baby. He is acting like a baby too.
2006-10-04 02:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by The Way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is dumb. He sounds like a baby himself, tell him to grow up and take care of his own feelings. You are a mom and that is super important and you should love seeing and spending time with your little girl.
2006-10-04 02:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boy friend should understand that you have missed your daughter I have been there myself, does he feel jealous or just left out ? you should try and make him feel wanted at other times when your daughter is sleeping or playin etc...
2006-10-04 02:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋