I heard or read this when I was a kid and was always quite rebellious to the idea. But now I am adult and look back on my decisions in my life and it certaily seems like those early years were very influencial. I believe I was molested as a kid, and I have never been able to realy gain any self control in my life. Its almost like I was rebellious to the idea because I was molested and didnt want to accept that who ever molested me would have some kind of influence in my later life, via my childhood. I wanted to believe that anyones life is not determined that way. That I can be a free person and determine my own destiny. But the more I look at my life the more I see failure, pain, and unhappiness. I sappose I just didnt want to accept that 'sex' really is very important part of life that dominates our thoughts and our decesions. I hope Im not crazy.
2006-10-04 02:22:26 · 9 answers · asked by Danomano 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thats a hard question. I have to beleive yes that what happens to us early on seems to set the pace for adulthood. Thats why its so important for people to break the chain. Make sure that whatever happened to you doesn't go into the next generation. People need to get help for them to deal with what went on in their past. I know that it would be hard for you beleiving that this person that might have molested you had so much power and control over your destiny. Go get some help now, so that you can take back that power. I think it would be a good idea for you to seek counseling. Your life doesn't have to continue to be filled with pain and unhappiness. Don't let this monstor control you anymore.
2006-10-04 02:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true our early childhood determines what we will do in the rest our life. That means we can even do the exact OPPOSITE of what we learned to do. We can choose, based upon what we experienced earlier in life. Some things are hardwired, and then it's more difficult, but we always have choice.
I'm not sure about the other things you've said. A counselor can help you with it though, whether or not it happened.
2006-10-04 09:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is true because the pain of being molested is still there in your adulthood it just effect your adulthood life in different way's like you may have hard time trusting in people or you might find your self being angry at times and you don't know why and sometimes you even have a hard time expressing or showing love to other people.
i feel your pain and until you are able to confront the person and ask them why? then you will never have closure it just seem like something that hunt you for the rest of your life.
2006-10-04 09:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by latonya m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True. Impressions of child hood are deeply engraved. They say you are what were when 6 years old. You take a glass of plain water and put a drop of ink in it. The whole glass gets colored. Your personality mould is cast when six. Even so you must endeavour to move on in life.
2006-10-04 09:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your not crazy. I think what happened in one's childhood is a huge influence in their life but I also believe that one has the opportunity to change that
2006-10-04 09:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , it is true, however with some help you can over come the pain.
2006-10-04 09:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me it is true. If you dont make mistakes and stuff when your young you'll never learn from them and grow up
2006-10-04 09:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's true, that your past shape you future, and don't worry you are not going crazy, God bless you
2006-10-04 09:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-10-04 09:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by fayem7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋