We have tried lots of things, from setting the mood being romantic to being there for her. Me and my wife have talked about this over and over again. But we seem to be stuck of where to go now. As I said we haven't tired speaking to our doctor because we don't know if there is anything we can do first. She has a very low sex drive and I would say my is a normal. We have been together over 5 years now and it seems to be getting worse so any ideas or sugestions would be much appreciated. Thank you.
2006-10-04 02:12:26 · 19 answers · asked by Andrew L 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Could be lots of things. She needs to have labs drawn, and a checkup with the MD. Rule out a physical cause first, such as low Thyroid function, etc., then move to investigating psych cause, if any. If your doctor does not take this seriously, CHANGE DOCTORS!
2006-10-04 03:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by big_shot_nurse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a huge number of things that are preventing her from enjoying a sex life. Primarily she should go and have her hormone levels checked and she should speak to her GP as they will be able to help her in some way regardless of the cause of the problem.
It sounds like you have a good relationship so I really hope you find a solution, good luck to you both!
2006-10-04 02:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by kookiboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she on the pill cause that could cause a decrease in her sex drive. I remember getting a shot for birth control and lost my sex drive completely. I wanted to want it but it just wasn't there. The best way to explain it was there was no "gas getting to the engine so it wouldn't rev up". It wasn't for a lack of wanting it, though. I'm glad to hear you are working with your wife instead of just getting mad. Have her get to the doctor. Could be her hormones just need some tweaking.
2006-10-04 02:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your wife have had a good heart-to-heart talk about your feelings and the problem, she really should consider seeing her ob/gyn and talking about this issue. Low libido can be caused by lots of factors--it is best to have a talk with her doctor and see if there is something that can be done, or if there is some underlying problem that needs addressed.
Medications, diet, exercise, sleep, relationship issues, and health issues all contribute to a woman's libido. Sometimes a bubble bath and candlelight aren't enough. If there are other factors contributing, there is little you can do if she doesn't seek medical advise/help.
2006-10-04 02:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would take her to that doctor. I know that if a women's hormones are off, that it can effect her sex drive. I had the same thing happen to me. They took test and found that I was lacking one of the hormones. They gave me some pills to get it evened out and it worked.
2006-10-04 13:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old is she?
Second any chance she could be going through the menopause.
Is sex your only concerns, is she having difficulty anywhere else.
if none of the above
Have u gained weight
r u selfish in the bedroom
has she gained weight
When was the last time u made her feel good about her
Did you ever suprise her.. or are u just wanting ur oats away?
Women need swooning, they need respect, they dont need to be taken advantage of.
hope some of this helps..
OR GET SOME TOYS
2006-10-04 09:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very common problem, you did not give many details but in general here is the deal: for postmenopausal women or younger women who have had their ovaries removed this ccould be a hormonal problem. for younger women it is usually psychological and related to stress and her feelings about the relationship... if she is taking antidepressants for any reason this is a major side effect. go to the doctor, gyns are becoming much more knowledgeable in this area these days. you may need to see more than one.
2006-10-04 02:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by tiare 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immerse yourself in poker and fantasy sports. Hitting a gut-shot straight on the river while you are all in is better than sex anyway, and more profitable.
2006-10-04 02:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by jinenglish68 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey i been dry for 3plus years now .I try everything I don't want to be just roommate.She tell me marriage is not about sex,I guess that why God made football and golf good luck and God Bless
2006-10-04 02:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex is a huge part of a healthy marriage......she needs to see a therapist and talk to her gynecologist.
2006-10-04 02:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by kellettgal 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋