My husband claims to do so.
I don't think that is possible. What do you think?
I have never cheated on him.
2006-10-04 02:11:49 · 22 answers · asked by Mujer Bonita 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been married for 5 years.
I don't think I can handle his paranoia forever.
2006-10-04 02:21:41 · update #1
sure. But... if you've never done anything for him to not trust you then the issue probably is with him. Is he doing something distrustful and turning it around on you? It's not healthy for you to have him paranoid and questioning you. How does that effect you? Do you have to rush home from an errand because he might be mad you're gone too long and question where you were? Not healthy for you even if you're not doing anything but running an errand. Does it effect your relationship with your friends. Can you not go out with your friends because he wants to know what you're doing and when you're coming home and all the details in between? Does he call your cell phone frequently when you're out to find out where you are, what you're doing and who's there? Trust me, I know, its not a healthy relationship to be in and it does lead to major resentment. You have to have trust!!
2006-10-04 02:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by gotcookies? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My ex, I loved her, but couldn't trust her. She kept telling me I was crazy. Eventually I had her followed by a PI. Long story short, she was with 3 guys and 2 girls in that short period of time that I can prove.
Trust is the most precious thing in a relationship. And contrary to sayings, even the little Lie's hurt. Be totally honest ALWAYS in a relationship. You may not like it at the time, but it will come back and bite you in the long run if you don't.
2006-10-04 02:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's possible. I love my husband with all my heart and soul and never want to be without him, do I trust him? No! He lost my trust when he cheated on me, but I took him back because I love him. We will probably always have trust issues, but the way I see it, if I continue to love him and he shows me love back, then maybe... just maybe we will be ok. I hope things work out for you and your husband, counseling helped my husband and I. So does communication, you have to have very open communication for a relationship to work, especially if there are trust issues. Good luck!
2006-10-04 02:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.....if this is what's happening, then it's not *really* love. It may have started out as love, but it has morphed into something else. He may love you tho, and may not realize that his paranoia and his love are actually separate, because when you love someone and they do something to make you jealous, is that when the love splits from being love to being something different?! It's hard to say. I empathize with you AND him actually.
But still....you DO need to trust the person you're with. People love to 'play' this kind of thing. If you have truly not given him reason to be jealous and he is manufacturing all this himself in his mind, then he has a problem. If you are egging it on, then you have a hand in how he reacts to you.
I think you both need to get to counseling, but if you can't get him to go, then you need to go yourself. Than maybe later you can get him to go.
Distrust will quickly poison any relationship. Good luck to you.....difficult position to be in.
2006-10-04 02:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ther are two types of trust. The type of trust that allows you to confide in others and the type of trust that allows you to feel free of jealousy. Love requires the type of trust where you can confide in the one you love but not neccessarily trust the decisions they make.
2006-10-04 02:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tom R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT there is a four part equation to love and the first one be TRUST,then Compassion, then Companionship, and then comes LOVE and if one of of these parts are missing it is just like math you can not come up with an equation LOVE is part of this equation and if one is missing then you can not have LOVE
2006-10-04 02:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by penelope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance claims he does. I believe that he loves me and tries his hardest to trust me. I have never cheated and have never lied to him. But, he says he was lied to and cheated by someone before(ex-wife 11 years) and doesn't want to be hurt. So I give him his time and space at times to let him build with me.
2006-10-04 02:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by KeKe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are in love first and then if you lose some trust, you can still love the person. It's just hard to keep loving if you keep distrusting....
2006-10-04 02:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's possible. Love means, in part, to trust.
2006-10-04 02:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can love them. You just need to work on trusting each other. Tell him to give in and get over his issues.
2006-10-04 02:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋