I have no friends at school and am forced to stand against the wall before school and sit by myself at lunch. It's no fun and I feel really emberassed and feel as if people were talking about me being such a loser and all.
I can't socialize for the life of me and my only form of communication with other people is smile whenever they "think" they said or did something funny. I also can't talk with teachers nor order my own meal in a restaurant or fast food establishment. I can't make conversation about anything, especially sports because I really do think I'm deprived of everyday things such as television shows or school activities.
Any hope for me? lol
2006-10-04 02:04:58 · 5 answers · asked by Pete 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I want you to realize first and most of all, that no one is better than you! You are so afraid of what others think about you and you feel like you can't fit in at all. Stop the negative thinking about yourself. It 's hard to learn to speak up, join in a conversation when you are so worried. This is something you'll really need to work on in and you have to start by making yourself do things(like ordering a meal) to experience it. Think first, what is the worst thing that will happen? It won't be the end of the world and you will survive. People are no different than you in nature and everyone makes mistakes. Please, trust yourself that you will too but it will be alright. Believe you can do it. If you experience anxiety attacks, see some professional help from a doctor that perhaps a mild medicine may help you handle that until you get more used to experiences. Do look for groups or activities you might enjoy.You may find one person who you feel comfortable in connecting with. Don't stop with that, try to just be around others and do not let your thoughts make you feel inferior. Give yourself time. Many people are shy but learn to be more confident in their associatons with others. You can too.
2006-10-04 02:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by yessireee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do YOU feel about you when you forget about all those around you? What do YOU want to accomplish in life?
Not everyone is "outgoing". I used to be shy when younger. Then I went through a phaze of rebelling, then I got over that too. I don't know how old you are, but get some books to read while you are not socializing. I hope you like reading. There's a series of books that might intrigue you..... it's the "Left Behind" series. I truly enjoyed them myself and most people, except for one person that I know that read them were so thrilled by them. Check out the link.
2006-10-04 02:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by ControVerse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to believe in yourself. Believe and know that you deserve to be heard, and what you have to say is important enough to be listened to and taken seriously. It's all about self-esteem and confidence. So what if you fail in front of people? If you're talking to someone and say something wrong, say you're sorry and move on. They won't think its that big of a deal. Just know that you are a person with a mind and a soul and that in itself is enough to know that you ARE important.
2006-10-04 02:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are probably different and not meant for school. life will change for you after. for parts of my life my best friend was my dog. people kind of suck so you aren't missing much. maybe you just need to realize you do have value and are probably more valuable than most stupid idiots with big mouths that talk all the time.
2006-10-04 02:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry, you'll grow out of it - I was exactly the same way in school, but I'm not now
2006-10-04 02:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋