I am a very nervous,quiet and shy person. I walked into the office today and there was about five people in the room and this woman said 'you should smile when you come in,gives off a better aura for everyone',i was so embarassed i just smiled. I felt so small when she said that and it made me feel even worse. I'm sick of my shyness,i've had it all my life and i hated not sticking up for myself today. Dont you just hate it when people ask you to smile.
2006-10-04 01:59:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
:) don't worry, it's ok. first of all, i'd like to encourage you to stop thinking "negatively"..i know it's hard, but if u can somehow change ur mentality, so that u might think "oh this woman was trying to talk to me, or encourage me to interact", then u might not have felt as small..and i Totally understand, i was like that for a LONG time..only recently in the past couple of years have i really tried hard to change my shyness around! this is the advice i write to people regarding shyness, from firsthand experience. good luck!! life is too short not to be Happy~~ :)
the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.
so having said that, work on:
1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.
2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.
3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.
:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.
2006-10-04 04:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly nobody cares... the Dr sees it everytime, and the nurses are so used to it. If you've gotten a epidural you will not even understand what's popping out of you in any case, a minimum of no longer beverages and fizz. You will believe stress of a head, however no longer some thing like typical beginning. No topic what, if you're grownup adequate to get pg you'll be able to manage giving beginning in entrance of your DR and nurses for goodness sake. The man-husband or what have you ever, mostly is simply too freaked to seem at some thing the primary time in any case. After the moment of 3rd, you would care much less as good. You will difference and blank up such a lot poo for your existence, when you've got even one little one, and I am certain your shyness will fade away speedily, after seeing your youngster's are living frame! Good success , and are not making your self loopy over matters you are not able to manipulate. Remember everybody poos... everybody.
2016-08-29 08:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that. And people would say similar things to me.
I have not stopped being shy completely, but less so.
I realized that in the grand scheme of things, I am the only loser by being shy...you dont talk to people, people dont get to know you, etc etc.
Try opening up a little. It will take you a long way. but it will take a little time. If you are determined, it will happen :)
2006-10-04 02:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by hansa150580 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people used to tell me that all the time "Smile", well my advise to you is just be yourself....don't force a smile, but try engaging in small talk with people...eventually your smiles will come genuinely.....
2006-10-04 02:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nervous, quiet, and shy?
we all have walls that we try to build up.
Some other person's wall may be call "loud and rude"..
or "funny and obnoxious"
those are characteristics that we take on in order to protect ourselves.
don't blame your embarrasment on someones innocent comment. just get over it and move on. it most likely was not personal.
not everyone is out to get you..
2006-10-04 02:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by RUth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something clever like... " Give me a minute to think of something funny, like your face."
2006-10-04 02:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people tell me to smile as well, just tell them to pi*s off
2006-10-04 02:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by Alik411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she was trying to make you feel welcome. shyness is a challenge for some people and sometimes smiling is inviting and so.... often they don't smile.
2006-10-04 02:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Marysia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋