She is 13 years of age, and shes one of my best friends. I know she has always been somewhat 'depressed' if you will, because 2 years ago she tried to comit suicde. I thought i had helped her over everything, until now. She siad shes been cutting for two weeks now. And she told me she was trying to stop. But what if she cant? I cant really tell her parents, because they would yell at her. They are the ones that do this to her. That make her upset. Help please..
2006-10-04 01:51:45 · 16 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her parents HATE HER AND WOULDNT CARE! *I tried to talk to her about it but she didnt take me serisouly.
2006-10-06 10:42:10 · update #1
Hurry and tell her parents secretly anyway. You may be saving her life and help from being hurt herself anymore. If you call the police it could get worse. Perhaps you can tell someone else to tell the mother and that way it will relieve you of the stress. HOwever you will be glad you did later on helping her.
2006-10-04 01:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your friend that the problem may be too big for the 2 of you to handle since you are both young and inexperienced about life. If you think her parents are causing the problem, find ANOTHER adult she can confide with or trusts, and go to that person.
If you dont know anyone personally, go to the most approachable guidance counselor in your school. They would be able to give you some direction, without being judgmental.
Help her see the brighter side of life. That there are in fact, more people in far worse situation than she is, and have managed to make it through.
2006-10-04 09:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, I myself used to cut, so I know what its like to be in that state of mind to do that to yourself... When I was doing it I didnt even pysically feel a thing, i felt nothing... But there was a weird feeling of relief, I would just feel awesome... And the sight of my own blood, that used to make me keep going... But enough of that... Your friend is seriously hurting, and its a good thing she has talked to you about this, but she might not really be ready to stop... All you can do is be there for her and let her know that you are there for her... No-one stopped me from doing it, I had to stop myself from doing it... I started going to councilling and I went back to school and although I still felt like **** I eventually stopped cutting... If you go behind her back and tell her parents or anyone who in turn tells her parents she will not trust you and you will lose her... Maybe talk to her about how she is feeling, try doing stuff with her that is fun, maybe suggest councilling, even offer to go with her if she likes, just be there for her... If you ever need any help with this, send me an email, just ask and I'll try my best to help, goodluck xox my email addy is little_purple_buttafly@yahoo.com.au
2006-10-04 09:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by buttafly_biattch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs help and u r not helping her by hiding her condition from her folks.did u urself see her parents being nasty to her?if not,then she might be making it up.she may be a depressed person.not her fault but she can be cured if she gets timely medical help.if u cant trust her parents then confide in ur school counsellor or ur own parents.let an elder take care of this.in the mean while be there for her but dont get caught up too much and lose ur own sanity.
2006-10-04 09:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting yourself can really harm your body, the best thing u can do for her is support her.. and try n convince her to go see a guidance officer.. I'm sure your school will have one.. they have no right to call her parents or anything like that.. they are there to help.. that's the best option but always be there for her.. she is goin through a rough time
2006-10-04 08:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can't talk to her parents then i think you should talk to someone at you school that way they can talk to her and the parents at the same time or just her to start with... don't leave it to long before you talk to someone, it seems to me she wants help or she wouldn't have said anything to you about it in the first place and only being 13 its not something that either of you should be dealing with by your selves.
2006-10-04 09:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by joyrider28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little sister is 16 and asked me for advise on this one because she noticed that one of her friends was cutting herself. What I advised her to do is talk to pick a teacher that knows both of you, and that you feel comfortable talking to. Then tell that teacher that you have noticed that your friend is cutting herself on her arms. Your teachers are trained on what to do next and they will leave you out of this. Once my sister did bring this to her teachers attention, her teacher did follow up on it, left her out of it and her friend did stop cutting herself. When someone is cutting themself it is a cry for attention, and you want to do something before it is too late. I believe that telling a teacher would be the best option since they will not bring you up so your friend will not feel like you violated their trust.
2006-10-04 09:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by Casey M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents are the ones who do this to her? Typical. Another teen that subscribes to twisted values. Here...let me put this to you. YOU'RE responsible. Know why? Because you waste your time here announcing to the world that your buddy with her self mutilation "problems" needs help instead of doing what your supposed to do. You tell her parents dummy.
If she dies it's on your head. Don't forget that.
2006-10-04 08:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs help badly and you are right to be concerned. Talk to your friend and try to get her to go speak with the counciler at your school. They will be able to get her help. If she's afraid then offer to go with her. Unfortunately there isn't much you can do at your age to help her except let her know you care what happens to her, support her and try to get her to seek help.
2006-10-04 09:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by Troubled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor love, is there a kind teacher you can talk to? Just be there for her and make sure you always plan fun things to do to cheer her up. Are you sure theres nothing going on at home to make her want to cut herself?
2006-10-04 08:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by The Way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋