Shes one my best friends. I tried explaining to her that cutting herself isnt resolving her problems. But she assures me that she isnt angry with anyone. She has also tried to comit suicide about 2 years ago. I didnt realize that she was doing this but I foundout 2 weeks ago she was doing this and I was shocked. What can I do to help her? I cant stand to see hurt! HELP!
2006-10-04 01:46:54 · 17 answers · asked by cat 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
INTERVENTION. Cutting isn't actually so much a concern to me in the cases of normal, healthy, sane individuals. It's a practice that has gotten a lot of bad press due to people basically misunderstanding the practice.
A reason for that might be the fact that the media only reports on those cases involving someone who is vulnernerable and having mental health issues.
As your friend has already attempted suicide twice, I would say that she is not mentally stable. This may not even be an actual desire on her part to cut herself, but to gain attention to her internal misery. HINT: She may not know this on a conscious level but some part of her may be reaching out to you and to anyone that she feels may care for her.
I don't want to take away from the seriousness of your friends situation. She needs immediate professional help.
STILL, I want to educate you as well as her and everyone else out there that this IS a legitimate as well as safe practice for those who are not suffering from a lapse in judgement or mental health.
2006-10-04 02:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Dhara 6 · 16⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna tell you from experience, You can talk til you're blue in the face. She's gonna do what she wants to do. Apparently it's more going on than what you can see. You can't be there to protect her all the time. She needs professional help and not guaranteed that will work. I had a friend that attempted suicide a few times when we were teenagers and he did'nt suceed I talked to him alot thinking that I had got through to him. He put it off for a while but once you get those feelings I think they always stay with you. He waited til he was about 23 and he finally suceeded. He hung himself. So once again you can do all you can do but if she really wants to do it there's nothing you can do about it. You might put it off but unfortunaly you can't prevent it. Good luck to you and your friend. Let her know that it is not worth it. Everyone goes through hard times but it'll be ok. Later, I'll be praying 4 you all. Have a good day.
2006-10-04 09:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by shylove357 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Cutting is a serious self-destructive behaviour and is symptomatic of underlying psychological difficulties. Usually people who cut themselves don't stop unless they get professional help, and the cutting typically gets progressively worse over time. Your friend needs to see a psychologist or other mental health practitioner. Show her you care enough to help her find help, and stick with her. Doing nothing is the worst response you can have. Talk to her, her parents, a guidance counsellor, or anyone who could help. Good luck!
2006-10-04 10:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by shakespear 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You have to talk to her, don't in any way ingore the problem at hand. You should convince her into telling somone, seeking help, anything. It's a serious matter which can grow out of control if not tended. Most importantly, be there for her. She'll need that the most, with overcoming it.
2006-10-04 08:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by cree siempre 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. And it's very important that you let her know you cant do anything. She needs to realize that cutting is a form of aggression in order to trigger a response from other people and help her. If nobody will be able to help her...she will stop this strategy.
2006-10-04 09:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Umpalumpa 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately there is very little you can do, people start cutting for different reasons and I can't help there. Is there a friends anonymous group near you? Remember that we are powerless over other people. I think she could be angry with herself over something, she is finding life hard at present. Can you get her interested in a support group for people who cut themselves.
2006-10-04 08:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by jimmyfish 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
As far as what I know, this is cause by stress or personal problems, usually caused by peer pressure or uncomfortable family environment. In order to help her, you must ask her, nicely, what her problems are. Then help her to solve the problems in a nice and safe way. Tell her that suicide isn't a way to solve a problem and there are actually people out there who is starving, homeless, disaster-strucken, not clear about their future, but yet they still survive to live.
Good luck. Remember, hurting yourself isn't a way to solve a problem. Instead, it would cause problem.
2006-10-04 08:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by unquenchablethirst 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
The best thing you could do is go tell her parents. It may make your friend mad, but at least you would be doing the right thing.
2006-10-04 08:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well self-mutilation is like self-destruction, self-imporvement is like masturbation. so.........fix this by sticking to destruction (mayhem). start by stopping being sober, then break something with ur bare hands (like glass). when u cut urself have her do it too. It should end the self-cutting. Trust me.
2006-10-04 08:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by BUFU 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
This girl needs more help[ than you can give. She needs some professional help. Talk her into seek this help.
2006-10-04 08:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋