My now in-laws paid for our honeymoon back in Feb. Well something came up and I canceled the honeymoon due to relationship problems. When I canceled, the company only gave half of their money back. Now, my husband's mom expects me to pay her back $1,000. I didn't even ask for them to pay for the honeymoon and I could'nt help that they didn't get all thier money back. Should I just give it up and pay or is this unfair?
2006-10-04 01:42:09 · 37 answers · asked by limeallure 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would expect you to pay them back 100% because you canceled the honeymoon. If something your husband did caused you to cancel the honeymoon and it is HIS FAULT, then you shouldn't have to pay for anything.
2006-10-04 01:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by reconflux 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are at the cross roads honey,Yes it is unfair however you now have to decide whether or not you ever want to have a peaceful,respecting relationship with your in-laws. mother in laws are tuffer then judges and some more then others may even be like drill Sargent's. Maybe your husband should talk to his mother and tell her it is kinda selfish for her to expect you to pay for something you didn't ask for,and that it shows it was not a gift given out of love because if it was nothing would be asked for it in return.And another thing it almost takes you to another level by her wanting you to pay back the money for a gift think about if yall had of went on this honeymoon You would be paying back for that for the rest of your life. I say that because it doesn't sound like your in-laws did this out of niceness or anything it is almost like look at we did for you kinda thing. anyway good luck I hope it works out for you.
2006-10-04 02:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by SH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, 1st yes it was a gift.. and u cant take back a gift once its given nor can u decide what they do with that gift once its given.. so tech. she's in the wrong..
Now u do need to realize that 1000.00 is alot of money and they did give u that gift with the intention that u'd be using it.. and for them thats 1000.00 down the drain.. which is unfair to them..
To make peace in the family i would pay her back the 1000.00 if u dont this is going to cause a wedge between u and the mom.. and it will become the bases of your relationship with his family through out the course of your marriage, which WILL cause problems for you and more so for your HUSBAND.. so although ur in the right to do what u want with a gift.. if u dont take the higher road the lasting affects will be even worse.. so my oppinion is bite the bullet, even though u know ur in the right.. just give them back their money.. and from now on dont accept any "big" gifts from them because u know now there are always going to be possible "strings" attached to them..
2006-10-04 01:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, you didn't ask for them to pay for the honeymoon.
The transaction to purchase the trip was between your in laws and the company, correct? The transaction to refund the money was also just between your in laws and the company... she should negotiate with the company for the remainder of her money, but I don't think you owe her anything.
The whole purchase was out of your hands. Of course since she IS now your mother in law... maybe paying her back would be the only way to keep the peace in the future.
See if she'll bargain with you about the amount.
2006-10-04 01:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by MissJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was a gift. If you would've went on the honeymoon would she be asking you for the money she spent on it? Plus she already got half the money she spent back. She didn't even give it to the two of you, even though, it was a present. Don't give it back. And if your husband has a problem, tell him to pay her back. It was a present.
2006-10-04 01:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say let your husband deal with this one, I personally don't feel you owe her anything. My daughter called off her wedding after being engaged for over a year.
Many plans got cancelled, many dollars not returned. Personally I applaud her for doing so because she felt something wasn't right. In her case, that turned out to be the truth.
You didn't ask them to pay for the honeymoon, it was a gift. Not all gifts fit and some have to be returned.
2006-10-04 01:46:11 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
They felt they were being nice to pay for your honeymoon, the least you can do is pay them back for what you didn't use. You are being unfair unless you give them all there money back.
2006-10-04 05:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would acknowledge the "paid honeymoon" as a wedding present... and no matter what you and your husband did with it... cash it in... take the trip... cancel it... is how the two of you "used" your gift... You and your husband are also entitled to keep the half cost refund, and to do with it as you like... Tell your mother-in-law to try that on her next daughter-in-law... The gift was given... It's out of her hands...
2006-10-04 01:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing is that you got half and your husband got half. If you were to pay it back you would only owe 500. 00 ... If it were a present how could anyone ask for their present back..Use your own judgement on this. I've lost several presents from bad deals from former son in laws, and I kicked myself and got back to what was more important,My little Girls. Get back to your Husband .
2006-10-04 01:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by rookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a gift from them and they were in no way obligated to pay for your honeymoon but choose to do so for not just your part but there sons also.
2006-10-04 01:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋