ive just found im 5 wks pregnant (unplanned). my husband goes 2 iraq for 7 months, i feel like the world has caved in. im really scared and cant stop crying, help me please
2006-10-04 01:30:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
It is alot of stress that is on your body. All of your homone levels are heightend and you are about to have to say goodby to your husband for 7 months. It is normal to be upset. It is a scary situation with your husband having to leave in itself. Add to that your current situation and that is the makeup of a sob fest. I know that it is hard for you trust me I have been there too. I too had an unexpected pregnacy. My husband was there for me for the first 3 months then he was deployed with the navy until after I delivered. When it feels like the world is caving in on you look up. I don't know if you are a religous person and I don't want to preach to you that is the last thing that you need. But if you do believe in him cast all of your cares on him and let him do the worrying for you. When all you can think of it the bad try to focus on the good. He is only going to be gone for 7 months and not 9. He will be back to help you through the delivery. I was really scared what would happen to me when I had my child but now she is going on 6yrs old and she is the light of my life. My husband is underway now for 6 months and she is now what keeps me going and not depressed all of the time. Just remember when you feel like nothing can go right...that little one is your biggest blessing she or he will help bring you through the even rougher times that lay ahead of you. I hope all goes well for your delivery and God Bless...
2006-10-04 01:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by BumbleBee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really sad and my heart really does go out to you, i cant say that i know how you feel but i can imagine how your feeling the best thing to do is talk to you friends or a family member dont treat your constant crying as something that you should be ashamed of speak frankly and tell them the truth, you will stop crying in your own time nobody can stop you, you can go to you gp for help but i find that a good old chat with somebody that you love and loves you is the best way around things like this you have to make some hard decisions though so i will leave you too it. But dont forget that there is always somebody you can talk to even if you have no friends and family there are people that you can talk to DONT TRY AND DEAL WITH THIS ON YOUR OWN, lots of luv x
2006-10-04 08:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by rubyredribbon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having a baby is a wonderful thing and a lot of women do it without a man being around you are lucky because your man is only going away for a while and when he comes home youwill be very close to term you should be keeping busy planning getting things ready for baby discuss names with your man get excited think of all the wonderful times you will have with your child sometimes unplanned pregnancies are the best kind and all babies are a true blessing dont be scared go to anti natal meet other mums new and experienced youll make friends and see you are not alone by the way your hormones may make you cry dont get bogged down with negatives just remember you are carrying a miracle loads of luv
2006-10-04 08:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by madeleine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pregnant and your husband is leaving for Iraq. I would be crying too. Your hormones have a lot to do with all the crying plus your sad because he's leaving. Right now you really need some good friends and family to lean on. Try not to get too down remember you don't want to strees out the baby. Give it sometime you'll see everything will be fine.
2006-10-04 08:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you one thing quickly, QUit Crying! My husband is in Iraq right now on his second deployment there. Yes it is horrible but us military wives have a job to be very strong in supportive of our men. I know exactly what you are going through. It seems that the civilian world has no clue what us military families has to put up with. Just be strong, your husband really needs that from you. He has so much to focus on in Iraq to keep himself alive so dont give him anything to worry about on the home front. You can do it, these deployments just makes us stronger. I know you are scared because i am every day, this is the second time i have to go through with this. OUr men our the best and bravest out there and we wives represent them. Just calm down and believe everything will be alright.
2006-10-04 08:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answerers that your hormonal changes of pregnancy are probably making it easier for you to cry. These same hormonal changes can cause a condition called low blood sugar. If this is happening to you then it can cause fears to be magnified too. All of the answers are good about finding support from friends, family and counsellors, however, there is something you can do for yourself every day that may help you and your baby.
And that is change your diet to one for pregnant hypoglycemics. A diet specifically for persons suffering from chronic low blood sugar will help curb any morning sickness you may have, as well as give you the nutritional support to face your devastating life changes. It will also be the healthiest diet you and your baby can have.
There is some basic info about low blood sugar at www.hufa.org. There are books listed in the library link that have diets that are able to help control the blood sugar condition.
If you wish to, please e-mail me.
2006-10-04 08:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you want the baby? Because if you don't you have options. Shouldn't this be good news? You should be happy. Maybe you are just sensitive b/c you feel like you are going to be alone during your pregnancy. And that's tough. But if you don't want a baby well then you have 2 options: 1) give it up for adoption or 2) abortion (if you do chose this, you only have a couple of weeks left to do it)
2006-10-04 09:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww you poor thing. I'm pretty sure its just a mixture of your hormones and being upset and scared for your husband going to iraq, and you being on your own to have your baby. Do you have family and friends you can rely on? maybe speak to your husband bout how you feel and perhaps he can get his tour o duty postponed? i'm sure he wouldn't want to miss the birth of his child. Just remember there are lots of support networks out there who will gladly support you and give you a hand, so don't be scared. I'll even give you a hand!! cheer up me duck!!! x
2006-10-07 12:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by sausagejockey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on the pregnancy! You're entitled to feel scared, its normal.
It's not ideal that your husband is being sent away when you need him the most but at least he will have his wife and a new child to come back to. Talk to the other wives, they wil give you support, after all they are all going through the same.
2006-10-04 18:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now you might be scared but remember in a few month your have someone that so special to you and your feel different and wonderful type of love.
I know now its might be hard but just remember your husband will be home soon enough and your have a new baby and a new live and that all anyone could need or wont
All the best to you and your soon to be new family
2006-10-04 08:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by destiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋